Numb I am not trying to embarass anyone. That is exactly what I am trying to prevent from happening by not going directly to her.
I like the rest of your solutions a lot and i talked to my cousin. I told him that i really enjoyed getting to know bhabi and that he was lucky to have her bcuz she was sooo sweet. I also mentioned that I have been swamped with school lately and havent been having time to do a lot of other things. I told him that Bhabi was friendly and she must be getting along with everyone else too which was good. But my cousin said "not really she hasnt talked to anyone else." he said he wished she would interact withe them more especially his sister... so i said "maybe bhabi thinks that by talking to me she is fulfilling her duty of getting along with the family... maybe u should suggest that she talk to ***** bcuz they live in the same city and she IS your sister." My cousin didnt seem offended or anything bcuz i was pretty subtle ... but at the same time he didnt see like he was going to take action... but inshAllah we will c!
Yaaay!!!! I'm proud of you Mahiya! You were probably thinking your cousin would bite your head off, but instead he was honest with you about his wife not bonding much with his sister. You've alerted him to a problem and inshaAllah he'll take it from there and give the message to his wife. Its funny how often times we think the other person won't understand us or will end up getting mad.......so we avoid confrontation......only to realize that it was no big deal. Happens often, LOL. Either way, you must feel better Mahiya, and I'm glad!