Cousin marriages- yay or nay in this day and age.

[justbilli]

Re: Cousin marriages- yay or nay in this day and age.

@Le_Pakistan

We can’t change what is allowed or prohibited by religion.

If I decide that something that is prohibited in Islam will be acceptable for me from now on (because I think its historically irrelevant), and I find enough noobs who share the same belief, and we manage to change things then that doesnt make it right.

And again, what does this example from the Quran has to do with cousin marriages?
As far as I know Prophet Muhammad (saw) himself taught men to be gentle, caring and not to be harsh towards their wives. Not some random people who are born hundred of years later but think they know it better.

Marrying your cousin is allowed. Simple. If you think it’s outdated or lame, then it doesn’t actually make it outdated and lame.

My point is just because scripture or hadeeth allows it, doesn’t make it okay now. If I follow your logic then because scripture allows the beating of a wife then we shouldn’t question that either…

@redvelvet

JustSilly,

How can you so confidently say that cousin marriages are not historically relevant? The US is the only western country that does not allow cousin marriage and even then it is allowed in about half of the states. It’s legal in Canada, Europe, Mexico and other parts of the world. Let’s allot some numbers to your scientific frowning upon, eh? According to the National Society of Genetic Councilors, cousin couples have only a 4-7% chance of having kids with birth defects from a baseline of 3-4 % risk in non-cousin couples. It’s not a dramatic leap and neither type of couples/marriage comes with a 100% guarantee. As far as religion is concerned, none of the holy books in three monotheistic religions prohibit cousin marriages. Islam encourages marrying outside of the family, but it does not prohibit cousin marriages. If you personally don’t prefer such a marriage for yourself, then so be it. But don’t look at those who do with an attitude of contempt/scorn especially one that stems from ignorance.

Lol. Very clever with my name change. Did you come up with that all by yourself?

Historically relevant. As in history. Past. Marriages amongst cousins was permitted at a time when there was a very small population of muslims. This is no longer a necessity.

Perhaps if we started teaching our sons that their cousins and nieces are sisters and daughters and not pieces of meat, things would progress in our region of the world.

Furthermore, the failure of scripture to prohibit something isn’t a green light to proceed. If that was the case then let’s just allow men to marry goats. Lol.

As to the scorn you are referencing, please reread my post and the post before it. I was called lame and my response was a tongue in cheek response in kind. No need to get your velvet in a knot.

Finally, people are free to believe what they chose. I believe it is barbaric. You think it is okay. No need to pick a fight, I am only stating my position.