Cousin marriages- yay or nay in this day and age.

It’s time to confront this taboo: First cousin marriages in Muslim communities are putting hundreds of children at risk | Mail Online

A recently published article speaks about how the Muslim community in the UK has a large rise in number of children with medical problems due to cousin marriages.

The article was indeed quite scary. Is it that bad out there, I wonder?

In my opinion, cousin marriages do cause medical probs but also at the back of my mind i think that if God allows it in Islam then it cannot be THAT bad. I guess we have to draw the line somewhere and that is not to allow generations of cousins to marry one another. More problems arise when there is too much ‘inbreeding’ in families, and that too for generations. (grandparents are cousins, parents are cousins and their children are married to cousins as well)
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But it can also be argued that even couples who are not cousins have children with medical problems.*

What are your thoughts on this? I am quite interested in this issue as my mamu-mumani are cousins and their son was born with a rare blood disease. And a close friend of mine is also going to marry her 1st cousin soon. Reading this article, I cannot help wonder if cousin marriages are still good in this age. :confused:

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Sure my family line had cousin marriages in the distant past but now I find it odd. Cousins share the same grandparents. Therefore I find it disturbing in this day and age. Its like a sister or brother.

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I know of a lot of families who only marry within the family and about 75% have children with some sort of mental handicap. One family in particular who is third generation first cousin married (couple first cousins, their parents first cousins, their grandparents first cousins, their great-grandparents the same) only have handicapped children. When talking with the couple by looking at their faces you can see some genetic anomalies as well. It's the same situation that happens in the Hasidic Jewish community with Tsachs. With so many people in this world, there's no reason to stick with one same exact genetic bloodline. Isn't one point of marriage to bring families together? So nay for me.

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I have always been against it. Your relation is like a brother and sister.

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It's NOT like a brother and sister. It's a personal decision and I don't find it odd. Since when does sharing grandparents make you brother and sister?

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How is it not like a brother and sister?

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how about non Muslims marrying outside of the circle of their cousins? they don't have those diseases? there are other factors for children born with diseases.

as a Muslim, there is NO restriction in marrying cousins and the Creator [Allah] knows better than we do.

In Islam, we CAN not make Halaal things Haraam and vice versa...we do NOT have that right or permission in Islam.

there is a choice. we have that choice to marry or NOT to marry a cousin...there is NO compulsion. but, for God's sake we mustn't never ever say that i can NOT marry because of such N such reason....because, that would be like going against Allah, by making a Halaal thing Haraam or a Haraam thing Halaal. if we do that that, say/act, then we will be held accountable for our beliefs and may be punished on the Day of Judgement.

we should watch what we say and do.

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Yay if you like your cousin nay if you don't.

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How is it like a brother and sister? Look up a dictionary.

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A mia biwi have the same Nana Nani or Dada Dadi....people who share grandparents are known as family (I am afraid a dictionary would say that too :p). So when it comes marrying to each other I am sorry but how is that not weird? Esp nowadays?

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Of course they do. I have never read an article or study that claims that non-cousin couple do not have disabled children. The point in articles like this is that the odds are higher if there have been multiple cousin marriages within a family. Its like seat belts in cars. Wearing a seat belt doesn't guarantee that you don't die….but not wearing one raises those odds dramatically.

Both my parents come from families where cousin marriage don't take place. We're all raised to think of/treat each other as brothers/sisters so the idea of marrying each other has never been brought up. I don't know how much this played a factor but thankfully, there is not 1 single disabled child in my family. I have 1 cousin (she's in her 30's now) who is a little slow mentally but she was born premature due to her mother going into labor early. But other than that…every child in my family (both my mom and dad's side) has been born healthy.

I don't get cousin marriages to be honest. Maybe its b/c it doesn't happen in my family but I don't understand why people can't find someone outside the family. My dada/dadi had 8 kids….nana/nani had 5. Between them currently I have close to 40 1st cousins and almost 9 2nd cousins. Yet somehow they have managed to find a spouse for all the married one's OUTSIDE the family. I have few friends who married their 1st cousins and based on their experience….I feel it just creates more drama.

As for the article….emotional/religion arguments aside….the FACTS do seem to suggest that a community with a high rate of cousin marriages are having a higher % of disabled children. So the question becomes….are these numbers fake? If the numbers are accurate, is there another explanation behind these numbers OTHER than people marrying within family?

BTW, the article is long but I'll just highlight below some of the specific statistics they're using to back up their view:

"the facts speak for themselves. British Pakistanis, half of whom marry a first cousin (a figure that is universally agreed), are 13 times more likely to produce children with genetic disorders than the general population, according to Government-sponsored research."

"One in ten children from these cousin marriages either dies in infancy or develops a serious life-threatening disability."

"While British Pakistanis account for three per cent of the births in this country, they are responsible for 33 per cent of the 15,000 to 20,000 children born each year with genetic defects."

"A recent survey of 1,100 pregnant women in the city showed that 70 per cent have husbands who are first cousins — a higher percentage than the average of 50 per cent among Pakistanis across the whole of Britain."

"more than six per cent of children in Bradford have health defect."

"In a typical health authority area, the range of different types of genetic disorder total 25 a year. But in Bradford, 140 have been diagnosed, according to Dr Peter Corry, a consultant paediatrician at the hospital."

"The British Paediatric Surveillance Unit says eight per cent of all UK children born with this kind of neuro-degenerative condition come from Bradford, although the city has just one per cent of the UK’s population."

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I don't need to look it up in a dictionary. Blood relatives from both sides. Your mamo's child; your phupo child; your chacha's child; your tayya's child is a blood relative and these close relations are just like a brother or sister.

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i dunno if your a Muslim or NOT but i assume you are...if you are, then think of what Allah says about relations. Allah has given a list of relationships that can not marry each other and cousins are NOT one of them. saying so is like disagreeing with Allah nauuzobillah.

yes, Allah has given you a choice to marry whosoever you want to but don't say, for God's sake, that they are like brother and sister.

now, it's your choice.

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I am a musalmaan alhamdulilah. You think it is like disagreeing with Allah whilst i have no intention of disagreeing with Allah naoozubilah e minzaliq! That is a highly disrespectful and inappropriate thing to bring up in a topic especially coming from another musalmaan.

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brother, i'm glad that you are a Muslim alHamdolillah...

...i did NOT mean what you are saying...it was a brotherly advice that a Muslim should NOT utter words that we can be held responsible for. it was just a theological thought. Ulema have advised us NOT to do that.

i apologize if i came across as criticizing you...that wasn't my intention but saying that a Halaal rishta is Haraam [by saying cousins are like brothers and sisters] is NOT right, brother.

now, it's up to you what you believe in. thank you.

Cousin marriages- yay or nay in this day and age.

My mom’s side of the family has many cousin marriages amongst her siblings…2 of my khala’s are married first cousin and 2 mamoo’s married second cousins…but after that generation their have not been any of us cousins who would consider amongst ourselves.

Incidentally, I’ve seen first hand how too much inter marriage in a family can go terribly wrong. My Mami’s side of the family is all about marrying amongst themselves. Her parents were first cousins. Her parent’s parents were first cousins. Her brother married their first cousin…out of the 6 children born from that marriage, all 3 girls are physically deformed (and now it’s painfully obvious that it will be very difficult to get them married)And now, as if that wasn’t bad enough, last year they married off their eldest son to his first cousin! :smack:

It makes me so mad…in this day and age, with all the resources and education available, why take the risk?

Cousin marriages- yay or nay in this day and age.

Hopefully the coming generation realizes the problems marrying cousins can cause and minimise cousin marriages. I am NOT saying we shouldn't do it at all (because Allah says we can) and He knows best), but we should try avoid it if possible.

I think the poster above means that for some families, cousins are brought up very closely, almost like siblings. Same city, lots of regular meet ups and all. For them, their cousin would be almost like a brother or sister, and the thought of marrying them is a no-no.

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They going to decline as families become more and more segregated and nuclear (if thats a word)

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There is only a slight increased risk compared to non- cousin couples. Most of the cousin marriages I know are successful and have produced healthy, normal kids.

As for it being weird, it 's perceived as "icky " more in the West . And even in the West, there are examples of cousin couples such as President Roosevelt, Edgar Allen Poe, etc. My sixth grade teacher was a gori and married to her first cousin. I personally don 't find it weird.

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Nay.