Re: Cousin Marriages - would you take the risk?
non-cousin marriages can result in children with genetic disorders but the risk is similar to the risk of being hit by lightning. What I'm trying to say, is yes some of it is just kismet and what Allah(swt) has ordered, but you don't walk into a busy road blind and leave it to whatever Allah(swt) wants, you have to take precautions and use common sense...
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My personal belief is that you can do alot to protect yourself and your loved ones but in the end it is Allah's will....that goes for pretty much everything.
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Bit illogical but fair enough, Allah(swt) gave you intellect and ability to make choices for a reason, wasn't an accident.
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There have been a lot of cousin marriages back home but we are strictly against it.
My parents dont care if their siblings get miffed or angry...it just wont happen. After years of battling it out, they FINALLY get it.
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now tell me how many people you know (pakistan,abroad,educated,uneducated,desi,burger) who have done that test/screening of blood??
People this is a question too........did you or anyone you know ever did the blood screen/test before getting married??
we are quick to point fingure at others...
Re: Cousin Marriages - would you take the risk?
People this is a question too........did you or anyone you know ever did the blood screen/test before getting married??
we are quick to point fingure at others...
I DID it...in my country blood test for genetic blood's illness is a MUST...
but yet i added some to it ...that when my hubby got it he became sad as far he felt insult but it was for our health not abt trust....
so any other did any test?
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I DID it...in my country blood test for genetic blood's illness is a MUST... but yet i added some to it ...that when my hubby got it he became sad as far he felt insult but it was for our health not abt trust....
so any other did any test?
Which continent is your country located in??
I don't know any other tests.....
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dear my country is asian also...
not other test :P
i asked any other person did any test ...lol
Re: Cousin Marriages - would you take the risk?
dear my country is asian also...
not other test :P i asked any other person did any test ...lol
west asia or east asia?? i am not asking you to name your country..
Re: Cousin Marriages - would you take the risk?
Pakistan is a muslim country and majority of Pakistanis are muslim. Cousin marriages are allowed in Islam so muslims do not feel that there is anything wrong in cousin marriage. Just like any other religious rule, in this case also many people do not question it because it will be like questioning god's wisdom.
Marrying your daughter to her cousin is attractive to many because well it is within the family that they know all about. Of course there is no guarantee that cousin marriages work but same is the case with outsiders. So its about minimizing the risk.
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Why is it questioning God's wisdom?... There's nothing in the Qur'an or ahadeeth to say its encouraged to marry your cousin, it's been made permissible and that is it. Marrying your cousin maybe once in every 3/4 generations is ok, but not massive inbreeding that goes on in our communities...
You see the Orthodox Jewish communities marry their in their families a lot here but they're very vigilant about genetic disorders and always have blood tests etc before they marry, and won't marry in the main if there is a risk.
It's compulsory to have a blood test before you marry someone related to you in the Arab Gulf countries, I believe also it's mandatory in Malaysia and Indonesia, but i'm not entirely sure.
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I had my fiance do a blood test, due to the fact that in my family, we have a number of people who are carriers of the thalasimia gene. I straight up told him, you need to get this test done before we get married. And he did it. Its not a big deal if you explain why its needed.
Re: Cousin Marriages - would you take the risk?
Why is it questioning God's wisdom?... There's nothing in the Qur'an or ahadeeth to say its encouraged to marry your cousin, it's been made permissible and that is it. Marrying your cousin maybe once in every 3/4 generations is ok, but not massive inbreeding that goes on in our communities...
You see the Orthodox Jewish communities marry their in their families a lot here but they're very vigilant about genetic disorders and always have blood tests etc before they marry, and won't marry in the main if there is a risk.
It's compulsory to have a blood test before you marry someone related to you in the Arab Gulf countries, I believe also it's mandatory in Malaysia and Indonesia, but i'm not entirely sure.
Exactly, marrying your cousin is allowed and that is it, just like marrying four women is but people rarely do that. From what I've seen, people only marry cousins because it is convenient (in some cases it is a means of getting a foreign passport) and they have the perception that since it's in the family, it will work out. Except what happens is when it doesn't work out, it only becomes that much harder to split or divorce because then you're alienating half of your family.
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There are this family friends who are all married to their cousins. Their parents were cousins, they are themselves cousins and now their daughter is getting married to her *mother's *cousin(he is 9 years older than her).
I actually have a bet with my *own *cousin that the daughter's children will be little monsters :p
Re: Cousin Marriages - would you take the risk?
There are this family friends who are all married to their cousins. Their parents were cousins, they are themselves cousins and now their daughter is getting married to her *mother's *cousin(he is 9 years older than her).
I actually have a bet with my *own *cousin that the daughter's children will be little monsters :p
Wow that is pretty effed up lol.
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There are this family friends who are all married to their cousins. Their parents were cousins, they are themselves cousins and now their daughter is getting married to her *mother's *cousin(he is 9 years older than her).
I actually have a bet with my *own *cousin that the daughter's children will be little monsters :p
That sounds confusing!
What is the consensus on marrying your mothers cousin? I havn't studied this, so what are the differences between your own cousin (first cousin) & your parents cousin (first cousin once removed, i think). Is this common too?
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Cousin marriages are not discourged in islam either be it one generation or massive inbreeding. Like I said, it is convenient and religiously/culturally accepted so its a no brainer for them. Trust me many Pakistani parents who are against cousin marriages do not oppose it because of gentic health risk but becaue of all the drama associated with it.
BTW, I am just answering to why people still ignore the risks associated with it, not a fan of cousin marriages myself ....major eww factor on top of risks.
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Islamically...as far as i remember....anyone with whom your bloodline connects is prohibited + saas and susar
bloodline connection means........
your immediate family (siblings-biological parents)
brothers and sisters of your parents (not the spouse of them)..like chacha,mama,taaya,phuphi,khala....although their husband/wife is not prohibited..
Re: Cousin Marriages - would you take the risk?
Most studies on genetic defects due to consanguinuity focus on first cousin marriages. But as rule the more distant the relative the lower the risk becomes BUT don't forget if you're parents are related to your would be husband even if he is a distant relative to you then the risk is increased!
Depends on how many generations your parents are related to your would be spouse... then double the risk if both mother and father are related.
Personally I wouldn't marry into family unless they were at least 4 generations seperate from me, i.e. they can could be related to my great, great, great grandparents but no one closer!
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Hells nizzle.
Why drag your cousins down with saas/bahu drama when you can bring in a totally different family and share the drama with strangers. I'm a giver.
Seriously though, its weird. I can maybe see cases where some cousins are basically like strangers but if you grew up with them like brothers/sisters then that's just wrong.