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i know of some aunties/uncles who haev married thier cousins...and their children are not abnormal...infact i know a couple who arent even cousins and their daughter is abnormal...sumthin to think abt.
the chances of a child being born abnormal increases if cousins marry each other
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yeah but ive seen many cousin marriages where the children come out to be perfectly fine....i think if u keep goin generation by genertaion marryin inside the family..then their might be more chances because the genes get all messed up..:S?
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It's funny how people talk about cousing marriages cause birth defects and yet say they are Muslims.. not pointing at anyone So here it is in the Quran:
Prohibited to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, daughters, sisters; father's sisters, mother's sisters; brother's daughters, sister's daughters; foster-mothers (who breast-fed you), foster-sisters (who breast-fed from the same woman as you); your wives' mothers; your step-daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives with whom you have consummated marriage, no prohibition if ye have not consummated; (those who have been) wives of your sons proceeding from your loins; and two sisters in wedlock at one and the same time, except for what is past; for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
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^ where does it say about “cousins”? 
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In my family there are several cousin marriages (most of the people are Pakistan-born, but a few are UK/US-born). MashAllah, everyone seems happy and children are healthy.
I say if the couple is happy together, then allow it to happen (as long as there are no external objections). But it shouldn't be the first or only choice.
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Inside, outside...the thing that matters the most is to marry a spouse who you will enjoy a lifetime of partnership with. Risks come with every pregnancy...there are no guarantees no matter WHO you marry or how far removed they are from your family line. Love who you marry and love the children that you have...
its wise to seek counsel of specialists like genetic counsellors...they can give much info and let you know what you may be "in for". but try to remember there arent any guarantees here either....I mean you can get a clean bill from a gen. counsellor yet have a child with autism etc. There are SO many disabilities that are not uncovered during pregnancy yet there are so many children that are born perfect. You have to be willing and loving enough to accept whatever child God/Allah chooses you to have.
Exactly.
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It says, “Prohibited to you..”
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There have been quite a few cousin marriages in our family not only in previous generations, but also in my generation. For example the son of my elder Phuppo is married to the daughter of my younger Phuppo. My parents are also first cousins.
I married outside the family, but I don't think cousin marriages are wrong. If they were, then Islam wouldn't have permitted them.
Cousin Marriage is like Eating a Horse in Islam
You only do it when you have no other options
But Pakistanis have made it a staple :D
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I think its not appropriate to marry cousins - for 2 reasons (moral & medical)
I can understand there CAN be some medical issues. But tell me about the moral. Which morals are you refering too? Morals are subjective to your upbringing.
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That's why in Islam, you don't "hang out" with your opposite sex cousins. You never know when you could be married to them.
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In my family if someone is about to get married, they first look for rishta within the same family
tobah tobah...
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Cousin Marriage is like Eating a Horse in Islam
You only do it when you have no other options
But Pakistanis have made it a staple :D
ahahah yeah family always serves as backup. koi aur milay na milay...khandan kay kissi single ko pakkar lo.
and in real desperation cases you have the watta satta..one set of siblings marries their cousins who are another set of siblings. u always wonder which poor soul was thrown in to make the deal sweeter ..
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Cousin Marriage is like Eating a Horse in Islam
You only do it when you have no other options
But Pakistanis have made it a staple :D
Dont some of the schools of thought allow horse meat, though.
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The most useful reply in the whole thread. :k:
A lot of the Ashkenazi Jewish people are prone to hereditory diseases so they normally go for this before marrying another Jew.
I think Pakis who only marry within their tribe or ethnicity should also consider it.
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Good idea.
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nowadays marriage is more like a joke.
the real question must be y one must get married? (i am sure after finding the answer to this question u wont have to deal with things like intermarriages, Marriages with Quran, infancy bonding, bizness deal marriages, love marriages, arrange marriages n bla bla bla)