Cousin- Divorce?

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Re: Cousin- Divorce?

@kakee

As I said before, someone doesn’t just suddenly hit you. It’s an eventual thing. Kind of like boiling a frog. If you put it in hot water straight away it’ll jump out, but if you raise the temperature bit by bit then it won’t know it’s slowly dying.

Do you understand what I mean? The posters who are saying that if she was educated and comes from a good family this wouldn’t happen to her have no idea what they are talking about.

Abusers don’t suddenly start using their spouses as punching bags. It is slow and by the time the victim realizes it. It’s too late. She has become too dependent.

I think you are reading it all wrong. All we are saying is if she has those two in her favor, it is relatively easier for her to get away from this guy.

Am sure you deal with helping abuse victims all the time, but is it hard for you to believe that some of the posters here may have gone through something like this and know a thing or two about it? Maybe they saw their mothers or sisters or daughters go through it. Ignorance is not about not knowing; it is about not learning. Not acknowledging that there could be a different point of view is the worse ignorance of all.

Every contributor to this thread did so to the best of their abilities to help OP. If you are capable of doing more, by all means, reach out to her and offer your expertise.