Could you be good/close friends with someone completely different to you?

[shaasavera]

Re: Could you be good/close friends with someone completely different to you?

@GlobalGal

Naah I don’t think it’s a subcontinental thing. She spoke broken English and was high school educated, never went to college so I’m guessing we were miles part when it came to her understanding what I was saying in English. She gave material things a lot more importance like she looked down on anybody that bought stuff from Walmart. She would only buy name brand stuff which is fine without the arrogance though.

What do you think would happen if you didn’t send Eid or birthday wishes to her? She might actually start missing you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Do you think there was something that you might have overlooked in terms of your actions that got her to distance herself from you? If you were so close before and now this, it doesn’t make sense why she would abandon the friendship. I’m pretty sure you’ve asked her what’s wrong.

With the other friendships you mentioned, we defo want to make sure these people stay in the country for more than a couple months.

I was just thinking of how our friendships involving 3 countries of the subcontinent. It’s kind of funny in a way. I guess in some ways you were miles apart but she still took advantage of you because you were a local. Then when she no longer needed your help she moved on. That’s not how a friendship works anywhere. I guess maybe there weren’t as many similarities and maybe in long term it would have been difficult to maintain the friendship. Still she focused more on material things than the fact you went out of the way for her. I know if i was in her situation i would have valued your friendship and help more. I was waiting for a few more days but I don’t think the EId message will come now. I guess she might miss me or maybe forget about me. She lives in a place few hours away from me now so it’s a long distance friendship now. Her bday is not till November so hopefully things will change before then. Maybe it is better to wait and see if she responds. It’s just that i think the distance and not being able to see her in person made it easier for her to drift away from me and at same time closer friends with others. It happened slowly over past few months but i didn’t realise till she cut contact. I’ve texted her but i’ve not called her recently because i want to give her personal space.

Agree with the last line. It’s always the friendship worthy ones that leave