Could you be good/close friends with someone completely different to you?

[shaasavera]

Re: Could you be good/close friends with someone completely different to you?

@redvelvet

You may never know those reasons. There’s a chance she may never tell you or might not be completely honest about it. And no, I don’t think knowing the reasons will make you feel any better. We tend to think it would, but it will just hurt more to know the reasons for rejection. Sometimes we do get closure from the person who hurt us, but many times we don’t…so you have to be the one to give yourself that closure…to detach and move on.

Friendship is based upon more than just knowledge of Pakistani dramas. You’re too concerned about getting their approval/acceptance and it shouldn’t be this hard. And yes, contrary to what u think, you are sounding like the over-enthusiastic, eager-to-please, intense friend. If they don’t reciprocate, of course it will hurt…but then you move on.

Isn’t it the right thing to do though? If you are friends with someone for nearly a decade and for whatever reason you can’t reciprocate the friendship, shouldn’t it be something you tell the person? even if it’s not a completely honest reason the person should know before being cut off.

Pakistani dramas was just an example. The friendship was based on more than just Pakistan/Indian things. It was based for many years on trust, communication, being reliable and loyal as well as understanding each other’s points of view. I guess till recently. Anyway, im going to be optimistic about it. I was also wondering whether other people had gone through similar situations.

One shouldn’t get too attached to any relationship be it friendship or whatever else. That’s how i feel after this. A part of me hopes she will be how she was before. If not, then there is no other option but moving on.