Re: Could you be good/close friends with someone completely different to you?
I think that’s a good approach. I will give her space. I am not going to ask her why she is not responding. The two messages i sent for Eid just wished her and her family Eid mubarak and the second message was sent in case the first didn’t reach her. I will only message her on her bday, Eid and NY. If she replies or not is up to her. I had a feeling she was perhaps mingling with some people who had quite conservative views and she said some of her extended relatives were liberal but some of the ones who moved here were more conservative. She went to this community rishta event and she said that there were guys who had a range of beliefs. There were some guys who were more liberal and others quite conservative. One of the guys she met said he was religious, like her, which is good because i’d hope she would find someone of the same religious level as her. She said he was quite conservative when it came to social stuff and thought one should not have close friends who are not of same background. I kind of joked with her like i do and said “Wow. That’s quite strict. I’m sure there would be exceptions to those rules. I’m sure he won’t mind our friendship. If you got married to someone who thought like that you’d still be friends with me right? I’d still be invited to your wedding, right?” And she was like of course, don’t be silly. You’re one of my closest friends.
Anyway, their baat is not fixed or anything. I think he is too strict for her. I don’t even know now it’s up to her to decide. I think i probably shouldn’t have joked about that.
I don’t understand. We’ve been friends for 9 years and shared many common events/experiences like for eg. going to a Rahat together, watching Bollywood movies together and lately sharing Pakistani dramas with each other. She introduced me to the world of Pakistani dramas and got me intrigued/addicted into watching many series. How can she do that and then disappear? Yeh sahi nahi hai. She also told my parents about good dramas and my dad watched all of them. When i didn’t know meaning of urdu words i wrote them down and she asked her parents.
If my dad asks about what new dramas your friend suggests i’ll have to say the distance is too great for her to tell now. At least I have showbiz Pakistan to discuss and learn about Pakistani dramas from friends here. Lekin 9 years of friendship and losing a Pakistani friend like her will definitely leave a void in my real life friendship circle. When i knew about any good Pakistani movies showing here like Bol i would let her know. she would let me know about anything Bollywood/Pakistani drama related. I used to share with her any interesting knowledge i learnt on GS or elsewhere about Pakistan that she did not know. In those 9 formative years there was no event or situation which had affected our friendship which is why this seems so strange. Even with cricket whenever Pakistan won against India i would be the first to congratulate her and when India would win she would congratulate me. We had plans to travel subcontinent together. She used to joke that if she comes across an Indian rishta she will let me know and I told her I would do the same if i came across a good Pakistani rishta especially since im on GS. Now that she is not responding i can’t even tell her of replies im getting on GS’s zaroorat e rishta. Last time i play matchmaker. This was way before my last matchmaking debacle.