Cost of weddings

[Khan4Life]

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I really don't know. Please tell me!

I'm not a Punjabi but still I know pind = village so paindo is basically a villager but in broader context anybody from Punjab is called a 'Paindo'.

[Southie]

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I thought paindo meant those who do pain to others?

[Krypton]

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Or credit cards lol

not really nice to mock someone's financial situation

not everyone is born with a silver spoon in their mouth.

[khattichic]

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not really nice to mock someone's financial situation

not everyone is born with a silver spoon in their mouth.

I wasn't mocking anyone's financial situation...I was making a tongue cheek jab *against *going into debt, bouncing off of queer's comment

And I'm not sure about the silver spoon in the mouth part, considering I was raised by a single mother who worked 2 jobs just to get food on the table and keep the roof over my head

[Krypton]

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I wasn't mocking anyone's financial situation...I was making a tongue cheek jab *against *going into debt, bouncing off of queer's comment

And I'm not sure about the silver spoon in the mouth part, considering I was raised by a single mother who worked 2 jobs just to get food on the table and keep the roof over my head

then you should seriously be the last person talking about someone's credit card debt.

if a 50,000-100,000 wedding is all going on a credit card...then they must be making that kinda money to have credit cards with those limits...(i do agree with your point that it is silly to put a whole extravagant wedding on credit cards...but if someone put a thing or two on there..i dont see the problem)

[_Passionate]

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A whole lotta money, a couple of months ago.

[Reha]

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@BombShellBabe

yes, people compliment and ask for my suggestions on clothes and jewelry all the time. I was asked to open up my own clothing line in my company but I refused! Honestly, I don’t care about what you virtual people think about my taste. I am comfortable with it.

Okay BSB…how does someone get asked to design a clothing line yet has her husband asking her to be more feminine and update her appearance?

Yeah, you’re definitely a troll.

[cpa2011]

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then you should seriously be the last person talking about someone's credit card debt.

if a 50,000-100,000 wedding is all going on a credit card...then they must be making that kinda money to have credit cards with those limits...(i do agree with your point that it is silly to put a whole extravagant wedding on credit cards...but if someone put a thing or two on there..i dont see the problem)

Not neccessarily. I know people with low paying jobs and high credit card limits. It depends if you pay your bills ontime, and with credit cards, that means the minimum payment. spending $50-100k on a wedding is fine if you have that kind of money. But if your not financially stable, then its rediculous to go 10 months paying for a 4 hour event.

[cpa2011]

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Ok, against my better judgement, I'm going to try to make some sense out this ridiculous thread:

On page 1, post 9, mzprincess88 made this post:

Not one single person here quoted her, laughed at her, scolded her or even commented on the post because she was answering the question as stated, is well known in the wedding forum, has been sharing details and asking for tips, advice and help for months now. It's her wedding, her family's money, their choice. No one here seems to have a problem with it.

BSB, you and the other hand, burst back on the scene after 2 years, with one outlandish, exaggerated and crazy thread after another. And you seem to be perpetuating the stereotypes that extravagance and buying things are the only way to secure happiness or a future for daughters. That is that some of us all are reacting too, plain and simple.

It's not personal..no one is making voodoo dolls (i hope!) with your nick or nazar lagaying your plans. Allah SWT tumko aur dain. Ameen.

Im sorry, she mentioned her jewlery was OTT and one set was only $12k? Are you serious? A really heavy ott 22k gold jewlery set is minimum 20k. Who is she fooling. This has to be a troll.

[Reha]

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@philosophy

or maybe they just want a nice reception with nice clothes and food…and…yea…

like when you go to go to work you wanna be well put together

or when you’re invited to some event and need to dress up…

for some people the actual event is a really memorable thing…so when they look back 2-30 years later…maybe they wanan see a nice visual representation of the feelings and emotions everyone was sharing.

there is nothing wrong with looking good and nice and spending

Nothing wrong with looking good and nice and spending at all.

But there is something wrong with accepting negative things in our society in the name of varying views and opinions. Jo cheez ghalat hai vo hamesha ghalat rahegi. Israaf is wrong and it doesn’t just affect one person. If it did only affect one I don’t think I’d care…but that’s not the case.

You can call it anything you want but reality does not change.

@philosophy

c’mon, how old are you?? you do realize there is world outside yours? and people with varying views exist???

Of course there is…and its also my responsibility as well as everyone else’s to contribute to the betterment of that world.

Admitting that much to ourselves and doing something about it is another thing entirely.

I don’t consider myself perfect but I do know that if you want to change something you have to be a part of it. People love doing all sorts of haye haye and afsos and verbally condemning things that are wrong among us…but does anyone actually take any action? No. Because typing is easier.

[Krypton]

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@Reha

Nothing wrong with looking good and nice and spending at all.

But there is something wrong with accepting negative things in our society in the name of varying views and opinions.

Of course there is…and its also my responsibility as well as everyone else’s to contribute to the betterment of that world.

Admitting that much to ourselves and doing something about it is another thing entirely.

but we do so many things in a lavish manner…and no outrage over that!! life would be soooo boring if all we did was work and pay bills and be “simple” :S :S one life is all we have.

also, sometimes people are under a lot of pressure due to certain accepted norms and have to do things a certain way cuz of the culture (i don’t agree with it…but it’s certainly not changing right away, so we can cut them some slack)

the only thing i have a problem with is bridezillas. but that’s cuz ive no tolerance for such people.

and if someone with a good head on their shoulders saves up or somehow pulls off a nice wedding…then yay, it gives them happiness!

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and just a clarification i do not want a lavish, expensive wedding. i hate the 8 days weddings. my “dream” is a one day event, where yes i’ll wear a designer but not like a ubuntu

[Mezhgan]

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Im sorry, she mentioned her jewlery was OTT and one set was only $12k? Are you serious? A really heavy ott 22k gold jewlery set is minimum 20k. Who is she fooling. This has to be a troll.

mzprincess88 is not a troll. She has posted loads of serious questions and comments in the weddings section and has been discussing wedding planning ideas for a quite a bit. Also, she did not claim that her jewellery was extravagant or say this in a boastful manner. She said this : (see the highlighted portion)

@mzprincess88

My jewellery is (typically) huge and over the top (as is common in desis) and one set alone was $12,000.00. There are multiple sets and bangles..

^She probably meant OTT by western, non-desi standards as, realistically speaking, Desi wedding jewellery is quite huge compared to western jewellery.

[noor321]

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@philosophy

but we do so many things in a lavish manner…and no outrage over that!! life would be soooo boring if all we did was work and pay bills and be “simple” :S :S one life is all we have.

also, sometimes people are under a lot of pressure due to certain accepted norms and have to do things a certain way cuz of the culture (i don’t agree with it…but it’s certainly not changing right away, so we can cut them some slack)

the only thing i have a problem with is bridezillas. but that’s cuz ive no tolerance for such people.

and if someone with a good head on their shoulders saves up or somehow pulls off a nice wedding…then yay, it gives them happiness!

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and just a clarification i do not want a lavish, expensive wedding. i hate the 8 days weddings. my “dream” is a one day event, where yes i’ll wear a designer ** but not like a ubuntu**

Agree with you here.

At bold do you mean bunto and not the operating system haha sorry couldn’t resist.

[Reha]

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@philosophy

but we do so many things in a lavish manner…and no outrage over that!! life would be soooo boring if all we did was work and pay bills and be “simple” :S :S one life is all we have.

also, sometimes people are under a lot of pressure due to certain accepted norms and have to do things a certain way cuz of the culture (i don’t agree with it…but it’s certainly not changing right away, so we can cut them some slack)

the only thing i have a problem with is bridezillas. but that’s cuz ive no tolerance for such people.

and if someone with a good head on their shoulders saves up or somehow pulls off a nice wedding…then yay, it gives them happiness!

---

and just a clarification i do not want a lavish, expensive wedding. i hate the 8 days weddings. my “dream” is a one day event, where yes i’ll wear a designer but not like a ubuntu

See…if you’re working hard and paying your bills and spending on yourself, I find that awesome because you deserve it.

Similarly, if you took your money, bought a bottle of wine and decided to have an evening with your friends…I’d still not blink an eye.

The issue comes in when your actions make life hard for the less fortunate who cannot live up to those expectations and standards you’re setting.

[Krypton]

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See...if you're working hard and paying your bills and spending on yourself, I find that awesome because you deserve it.

Similarly, if you took your money, bought a bottle of wine and decided to have an evening with your friends...I'd still not blink an eye.

The issue comes in when your actions make life hard for the less fortunate who cannot live up to those expectations and standards you're setting.

ok we can agree 100 % here.

[TLK]

@flawedsoul:9942132

Anyway, I personally feel there should be a happy medium. $1500 is too low and $100K is too high imo.

Oh and, congratulations Reha!!

Yes $1500 is low but wife and I had no choice. That was all we could afford. A nikah at my sister’s house, court marriage at mayor’s office, reception for 80 people at a banquet hall.

[BombShellBabe]

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@Reha

Okay BSB…how does someone get asked to design a clothing line yet has her husband asking her to be more feminine and update her appearance?

Yeah, you’re definitely a troll.

He just want me to wear dresses to parties… I am already too feminine in my looks lol

[Krypton]

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[Ethan_Hunt]

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[Sajalina]

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I am going to share something here that I witnessed couple years ago.

Girl 1- gets engaged, wants a nice wedding, works very hard for a couple of years, saves up for the wedding, and eventually succeeds at having that wedding of her dreams.

Girl 2- present at the above girls wedding, sees and wants the kind of wedding girl1 has. Eventually it's time for her to get married but can't afford the same wedding as the other girl so she settles for whatever she can afford.

At the end both live happily ever after.

Now coming to the financial issues related to extravagant weddings vs simpler ones. Did girl 1 not have the right to have the wedding she did? Again she worked really really hard to save up for it.

I am well aware of the fact that there are homeless people around me, does that stop me from eating my biryani and sleeping in my warm bed at night? Sadly it doesn't.