Re: Cost of weddings
It was pure stupidity. It was obvious from the start, as soon as they got engaged that this jori was doomed. They fought and bickered about the typical stuff “your mom said this to me…” “I want to wear this color, not that” “Why didn’t you go sit next to my mom..”
The families kept trying to one up each other with their shaadi preps, and then would fight about the money, who was paying for what, how much stuff cost…when the wedding festivities were starting, we even pulled the groom aside and said “You know you don’t **have **to do this right…it’s not to late to call it off if you’re having doubts”, but he was caught up in the whole “log kya kahengay” crap and was convinced that everything would be ok. The two families were fighting up until the day of the nikkah…still got married, the couple left for the honeymoon, came back 10 days later…took the dulhan to her new home in another state and by the end the week she was back at her maika ready to call it quits. Apparently she was still upset about some shopping/money issues, got into a tit for tat with his mom and it escalated into a big ordeal.
So yea, extravagance doesn’t equate to happiness and marital bliss if that’s what your basing your worth on.