Cost of weddings

[Lusi]

Re: Cost of weddings

@Sehrysh

I do get the idea that a person should spend what they can afford - spending within your own individual budgetary means on a wedding.

But the concept of israaf goes beyond the relative spending power of the individual (for one person $100,000 doesn’t matter and for another $1,000 is outside of affordability) and is a more absolute concept. The idea is to not be wasteful. So while couple A can afford a $100,000 wedding - such a wedding may still be wasteful.

I’ve always believed that a wedding should not be about the wedding day but about the marriage - the families should be celebrating the union of two people and two families as opposed to trying to put on a grand production. And yes, unfortunately these days the celebration takes a back seat to the grand production.

Ah, and going back to one of the topics close to my heart - the couples that say: ***no boxed gifts ***- sadly, they’re usually the ones who throw the grandest party and then expect their guests to pay for the privilege of attending their wedding. The worst are those who thoo-thoo if the cash gift received doesn’t cover the cost of the guest’s meal they paid for.

At the end of the day - celebrate your wedding - but do so in a way that is meaningful and not wasteful.

I did not have a grand wedding. However, we did request for no gifts as we were traveling b/w different states. The gift cards and the money really helped us as we were starting our lives from scratch and we are very grateful for that. Of course there were people who bought box gifts, we were equally thankful to them for their thoughtfulness.
At my wedding shower, my coworkers asked me what we need for the home. First I was hesitant but when they insisted, I told them I have buy a pressure cooker and a set of cooking pots. I got a beautiful set of cooking pots in gift.

My coworker had a wedding shower, she had honeymoon registry along with registries at couple stores. However, most people made the gift towards their honeymoon.