Cost of weddings

Reha · February 28, 2014, 3:09pm

Re: Cost of weddings

And that’s a very typical response from you as always.

You may spend less or more on your wedding, I could care less. The money is not coming from my pocket after all. It’s one thing to be proud of something and another when that proudness develops into a “holier than thou” attitude that isn’t helping anyone much in this thread.

I’m not saying one should spend over their capibility but if someone wants to have an extravagant wedding - there’s no need to look down upon them as if they’re infecting the society or something and vice versa (in regards to spending less.)

In regards to your last comment about proto’s brother - I’ve seen engagements fall apart because the guy’s family insisted on saadgi and at the same time I’ve seen the long list for bari items, not forgetting all the threads we have on GS, about how extravagant and elaborate the bari needs to be.

Everything is not so black and white.

I am happy you feel you can expect these outlandish thoughts and ideas from me. I feel good about my actions. In fact, I feel so good I want eeeeeeeerybody on the same page someday. It won’t happen in my lifetime I bet but someday it will.

You know the worst thing about extravagant weddings? People barely listen to the Nikah…its treated as a formality and gotten over with as soon as possible so people can watch the circus…speeches, dances, couple dances, toasts, cake cutting, processions, entry marna, etc. No one even pays attention in the audience.

The big princess wedding is an illusion people…you’re NOT a princess and he is not a prince. You’re not the only focus of his life and neither is he yours. Its not okay to be bridezillas. It is not a “to each their own” when society as a whole is impacted by your actions. Its not okay to spend 5K on a wedding cake.

Guys, I get it that many of us can afford it but that doesn’t mean its a good thing. I do realize y’all don’t like my take on it but people really need to step outside the box now…stop dreaming of ten foot stages where all eyes are on you and him and you’re both glowing. It ain’t glow, its the 7000 watt bulb your photographer has on you. Don’t desire to be fair on your wedding day, desire to be yourself. Biryani is usually made with the same Shan masala everywhere. The wedding DAY madness will never make sense to me. People take an entire year to plan these things…I find that mind boggling…who needs a year to put together a wedding? Its not exactly rocket science.

This stuff is not important and should not be important…I wish people would just make it black and white instead of forcing gray areas. How many girls complain about issues that came up during their weddings? So and so did this to me, didn’t give me enough gold, made fun of my gold, his sister threw a fit, his mother never asked my mother for dinner, etc.

And no, I don’t expect you or many of you to understand this…some I can tell totally get it but most will not. If it took me 3 weeks to convince my own family…I can only imagine what other people think.