Cost of weddings

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Re: Cost of weddings

@Arzi

And that’s where we fail as a society unfortunately. Why do gorey people not have this problem? Because they understand ‘each to his own’ - Everyone does their own thing for their weddings without pointing fingers at anyone else. You would never hear anyone of them saying “oh no did you hear they only had 54 guest” or “did you hear they had 600 guests, such show offs”..

I do understand what you’re saying, Chicken Biryani. But for me comparing dowry and extravagant weddings is like comparing apples and oranges. Dowry is a greedful act while the ‘desire’ for an extravagant wedding isn’t, IMO.

Here’s my take on it (and it’s probably my ABCD’d upbringing lol)…I agree that goray people don’t give a rat’s behind about who did what or spent how much at their wedding…everyone does their own thing and that’s that. I am of the opinion that simplicity and saadghi is the way to go, because I’ve seen too many families literally put themselves into debt over this nonsense of “keeping up”.

I don’t fault anyone for doing the opposite. You want to have a $100K Platinum Wedding…go for it, meri bhala se.

My problem is with the assertions that have been made in this thread about “every bride wants to be a princess and have the best of the branded, high dollar weddings blah blah blah blah” No…not every bride wants, needs or cares for that. The idea being put forward here that the material things will secure happiness is what frustrates me.

And yes, I realize it’s only one person in this thread really saying that, but if you go to the wedding forums, you’ll find a thousand more with that thinking. It’s an inherent flaw in our culture, that we NEED to have extravagant weddings.