Cost of weddings

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Re: Cost of weddings

@Chicken_Biryani

No , not pointing at any member. I spoke about a concept that didnt fare very well with many members here and compared it with another concept .
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Anyways, I think the problem begins when the burden of an extravagent wedding doesnt stay confined to the ones that want it and do it and the fall back of it starts spilling into the general society and then it starts becoming a trend and ending up as a requirement and a norm of the society. **

For example, dowry, while it should very much be a personal decision of the parents how much to give or even not going down that route. Its no longer a decision in desi society , that parents of the girl make. Its a decision that either “log kia sochain gai” mind set makes or the grooms family makes! Therefore , when those who stand up and say , we will not accept dowry , are seen with immense respect because they are standing up against a wrong norm.

I take extravagance of wedding functions in the same light. Its no different actually. For some who can afford it, why should it become a huge headache for many others who see people struggling in their lives to meet the standards set by a bunch of show offs?

And that’s where we fail as a society unfortunately. Why do gorey people not have this problem? Because they understand ‘each to his own’ - Everyone does their own thing for their weddings without pointing fingers at anyone else. You would never hear anyone of them saying “oh no did you hear they only had 54 guest” or “did you hear they had 600 guests, such show offs”..

I do understand what you’re saying, Chicken Biryani. But for me comparing dowry and extravagant weddings is like comparing apples and oranges. Dowry is a greedful act while the ‘desire’ for an extravagant wedding isn’t, IMO.