Cost of weddings

[Chicken_Biryani]

Re: Cost of weddings

@Arzi

I haven’t called a low cost wedding a desi thing. I called it a desi thing to not let people do what they want regardless of how much they want to spend. Yes I know BSB is up in everyone’s face with her numbers but if that’s what she wants, then let it be. If she wants to believe she can afford it, then what’s the problem? Why is it more right to have a low cost wedding compared to an extravagant? I do feel it becomes a holier than thou attitude when people think what they’re doing is right and what everyone else is doing is wrong. If someone wants to carry the financial burden of an extravagant wedding that should be their headache. Or is it because everyone must compete with each other hence we must all follow the same trend?

No , not pointing at any member. I spoke about a concept that didnt fare very well with many members here and compared it with another concept .

Anyways, I think the problem begins when the burden of an extravagent wedding doesnt stay confined to the ones that want it and do it and the fall back of it starts spilling into the general society and then it starts becoming a trend and ending up as a requirement and a norm of the society.

For example, dowry, while it should very much be a personal decision of the parents how much to give or even not going down that route. Its no longer a decision in desi society , that parents of the girl make. Its a decision that either “log kia sochain gai” mind set makes or the grooms family makes! Therefore , when those who stand up and say , we will not accept dowry , are seen with immense respect because they are standing up against a wrong norm.

I take extravagance of wedding functions in the same light. Its no different actually. For some who can afford it, why should it become a huge headache for many others who see people struggling in their lives to meet the standards set by a bunch of show offs?