Cost of weddings

[Aaze]

Re: Cost of weddings

@Reha

This is a very typical desi thing to say and I can just hear it coming out of a very overweight uncle with a huge moonch.

They’re high horses…so high you can’t touch and proud of it.

One day, when you have four daughters and people start to make unreasonable demands on your finances out of pure greed, you might get it. Until then, you cannot understand why spending less can make someone proud.

Aur jab larki walay saadgi pe insist karte hein…I can see why and even expect it. But to find a guy’s family who is also on the same page like proto’s…its beautiful to me. Her brother is probably really proud that he didn’t burden his wife’s family. Mashallah.

And that’s a very typical response from you as always.

You may spend less or more on your wedding, I could care less. The money is not coming from my pocket after all. It’s one thing to be proud of something and another when that proudness develops into a “holier than thou” attitude that isn’t helping anyone much in this thread.

I’m not saying one should spend over their capibility but if someone wants to have an extravagant wedding - there’s no need to look down upon them as if they’re infecting the society or something and vice versa (in regards to spending less.)

In regards to your last comment about proto’s brother - I’ve seen engagements fall apart because the guy’s family insisted on saadgi and at the same time I’ve seen the long list for bari items, not forgetting all the threads we have on GS, about how extravagant and elaborate the bari needs to be.

Everything is not so black and white.