so ur life’s a joke. .. how would u cope with failure.. ?
i try to explain that life has ups.. and life has downs..THATS life.. but its like empty-headed cases.. NOTHING gets in.. and whats in, NOTHING OF it gets out..
then there is suicide… opening a can of whopass! by itself..
i try giving examples.. that each failure makes u a better person.. and from each failure u learn..so next time it gets harder for u to fail…
i guess nothing works for some people 
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i try to explain that life has ups.. and life has downs..THATS life.. but its like empty-headed cases.. NOTHING gets in.. and whats in, NOTHING OF it gets out..
then there is suicide... opening a can of whopass! by itself..
i try giving examples.. that each failure makes u a better person.. and from each failure u learn..so next time it gets harder for u to fail...
i guess nothing works for some people :(
i tend to think about life more as a play!
you play sometime you win, sometimes you loose, but the most important is to play and to have fun at it, no matter what is the result!:)
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i try to explain that life has ups.. and life has downs..THATS life.. but its like empty-headed cases.. NOTHING gets in.. and whats in, NOTHING OF it gets out..
then there is suicide... opening a can of whopass! by itself..
i try giving examples.. that each failure makes u a better person.. and from each failure u learn..so next time it gets harder for u to fail...
i guess nothing works for some people :(
Failure is an ingredient of eventual success my dear. Unless you fail several times you cannot hope of getting a true, lasting and permanent success. You have to be a hardcore optimist to see failure as a part of success.
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Failure makes us appreciate success.
With that being said, it still sucks. Sometimes it's best to be able to whine and moan about it. Chocolate helps. Ice Cream helps. Hope this helps.
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Just wanted to point this out to PCG, hey PCG, he said “MY DEAR”…
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for Sal35.
Anyhoo, to answer the original question, perhaps have the person (or yourself, whoever you are talking about) look at life as play and fun. Yeah, I know sounds bad, but I dont mean stop taking things seriously and fool around. I mean, see life not as a series of successes and failures, but as a series of cool experiences. So you have a job and it flunked. Its not a failure, it was an experience. It seems like sugarcoating things to raise self-esteem, but in reality, what does your success or failure really matter? Time still somehow manages to cope with life and move on. Humans need to learn from Time. :o
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yar pcg.. logic fails for some heads.. and they know it too.. real strength comes from within.. without any support or sahara..without any inspiration
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Well that is why its terribly important to have moral support from home. You can get it from friends, but really, your friends are not there when you wake up in the morning with your mouth smelling like crap, and they're not there to hear your farting tunes when you are sleeping, to put it bluntly.
Living with people who you are related to, and who you have biological ties with (you share children with them, or they birthed you, etc), and having moral support from them makes a world of a difference. Its the main source of self-esteem. You could be a failure, but as long as you have love from home, you are good to go.
People who don't have that coming for them, end up looking for a continuous string of successes to keep their heads up high. I have been there and done that, and its terrible. Eventually, you just have to have some faith in yourself, and like I said, family helps a great deal.
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take it in your stride, take it as a challenge- see failure as a blessing in disguise - in some cases 2nd chance given to you to improve the quality of your own life(a much better life). I think we all have to look within ourselves and find that "light"(happiness, satisfaction,watever u wanna say)...you have to be guiding force in your life- stop looking around for motivation-be the motivation for others, spread that light within you.
just remember Allah subahanalah- talah only burdens a person that a person can tolerate. so, you are strong enough to be in that position and fighting your way out of it.
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Watcha flunk now kid?
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:-) i didnt flunk'd yar.. i'm quite satisfied with my life..
in the journey of life however, i've crossed some people that remind me of my time of disbelief, failing-to-trust ppl around me, etc .. and i try to make these ppl understand SAME things that i went through ... but i guess.. i went through those thinking the same thought .. "world is filled with idiots, i am right"
:-)) comes a point in life, when u backoff thinking should i even listen to this nucklehead.. but then thats what everyone else did too when you went through..
i am trying my best though to pull this individual back and hammer some logic into his/her head..
lets see...
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Faizy, I wish I can go back to my thinking self again I feel my brain so rusty and out of tune when it comes to getting myself to writing deep thoughts. So here goes nothing…
As Denis Waitley said, :Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.
Back a decade ago, I lost a friend of mine, who got so gloomy and hung up with the selfish people of this world that she put an end to her life. I still feel responsible for her suicide, since I was millions miles away from her, and I had no idea she was going through so much! I can’t get rid of the guilt that still hangs looming over my head. Since I was one of those that she confided in. Though with millions of miles between us, I tried my best to consule her, and I took her for her words when she said, “I’m fine now, time will pass, without all this leaving its trace.” But hey guess what, some thing else happened, and she took her life away! It didn’t had to end that way, but thats how it was supposed to be. It was never meant to be a perfect life. For none of us. Its different for everyone. Each one of us is given a package of our own to deal with. Some of us still are able to get up, after suffering a blow so hard that strikes us down, and we’re on our knees. My sis-in-law says, “Sh*t happens!” She sums it up the best I’d say.
Its a jungle out here. With alot out there to get us, rather than give us any thing better to remember the time by. We’re on our own, we can do only so much for others. Failure is something that only enhances our knowledge. I personally learn alot more from failure, and misery than I would from success and happiness. Misery opens up a new dimention for one where u learn so much in such a short time frame. But then again its not really fair not to succeed, so its a good thing to keep on trying. Although it can be heart wrenching and draining procedure, but try we must until our last breath. For there’s nothing better to do than to toil until we are there where we desire to be.
So best of luck…and lemme know if in anyway at all my words above have even thrown u off even more..hehe…!
Regards:
DB 
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As long as you earn Halal, untainted and clean Rizq from the efforts of your own two hands, you should not be depressed and thank Allah :swt:…
I have seen very succesful people who have 2 or 3 gas stations and are living the life of luxury…But at what price? They have lotto machines in thier shops and they are selling cigarettes, both of which have been declared as Haram…
That Haram goes into the food they buy and into their children’s blood…
And yet, I have seen cab drivers, gas station attendants and such who earn a Halal living…They may not have all the the fringe benefits of a big bank account, but Allah :swt: has given them means to a clean and untainted source of income…
In my view, any person who earns an honest day’s work from his own two hands, is not a failure…I consider a failure someone who breaks the laws to earn some extra dough…
Consider yourself fortunate…
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so ur life's a joke. .. how would u cope with failure.. ?
HAZRAT ALI ka qoal hai kay main nay KHUDA ko apnay iraday kay tootnay say pehchana,to as a muslim hamara maqsad hi khuda ko pehchanana hai.yeh failures hi hamain agli dafa jeetnay ka hosla paida kerti hain haar jeet saath sath chaltay hain.so failure say naumeed nahin balkay nia azam paida hota hai next time jeetnay kay liay n after all life is not bed of roses.
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What's wrong, if I used the word "MY DEAR" to Faizy. We both know each other and I used it since I feel informal with him. In fact, I use it with lot of other people when I feel I have developed informal relation with them. You can see it in many of my postings in Gupshup. PCG didn't like it, so I decided to remain formal with her. If Faizy objects then I will not use it with him too.
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I don’t deny or counter your argument. Any concept, idea or things can be viewed from various angles. I see from my angle and you view it from yours. We both are right in our own ways.
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I cope with failure every day. I meet with my boss for 30 minutes in the morning. Boy is he the biggest loser
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so ur a loser's subordinate Kaleem? :p
