Coping with Depression

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depression achy cheez heh, depressed insaan koh khuda yaad ata heh, insaan kee usleeyut yaad atee heh, ek rawayut meh likawa heh Allah is with the broken hearted.

and friends i''ll tell u bout friends, theyre good for u, when they want theyre uses, and when theyre done and u need them, where r they, any where to be seen? What kind of friends r those, theyre not friends theyre buqwaas, id rather stay at home all day then have friends like that. Jiskah Allah heh uskoh or kya chaya heh? Jis keh paas kana heh uskoh or kya chaya heh, jiskeh paas gur heh uskoh or kya chaya heh?

U see how it works is everyone thinks theyre problems are the worst in the world right? U look at others laffing and enjoying life, but man everyone knows that isnt the case, everyone has problems some less then others some more then others. Buss all i can say is depression meh be kush raina or khushy meh depressed rehna---- if u dnt understand me watch the film sharaabi----- and yaaad rukna there is always a happy ending!

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listen to music or go out and shout at someone else or yourself. usually i shout at my self like saying i did this and he/she said that etc etc. it helps sometimes..

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mehroo baji

Shadi ke baad zindagi kaafi badal jaati hai magar iska matlab ye nai ke aap zindagi ko dhang se jeena chor deiN. You know there's a lot of responsibility, kids, husbands, in laws, taking care of rest of the things at home but you have to be able to take time out for yourself. Aik tarah ke routine se to sab thakk jaatay haiN. Aap apni dostouN se mileiN gee tou wo bhi aap se mileiN gee, it's always a two way street. Hum akailay nahi reh sakte, sab ko logoN ki zaroorat hoti hai, sab cheezeiN apni jagah. Husband hai to apni jagah, bachay apni jagah, ammi abbu apni jagah, and friends apni jagah. You have to balance it somehow, and you can't compensate one for the other. Take your kids out, dostoN ke ghar jaya karieN. Go shopping with them, spend time with them and they will do the same. You i am sure are very young aur saari zindagi iss tarah tou nahi guzar sakti. Occupy yourself with some hobbies, you like house decor why not pick up a book and try creating something. Or take house decor classes, etc. Pick up a book, read for enjoyment, go out with your hubby alone to dinner, have the kids be babysit by someone. Aap ko khud koshish karna ho gi, you have to take the first step. :)

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sehar sisoo u r 100 % right , shade ke baad zindgi kafi badal jati hai , i know that and i know many ppl who are married have kids but have balance in theirs lives , none is like me ..sab rashtaydarian , family friends etc nabatay haiN , most of my friends are married now have kids and in/laws lakin they still have time for other things to do beside gaar ke jhanjaal , time hota to nahiN hai lakiN time nikalna parta hai my problem is i am not really willing to meet them , i dont know why :o hubby always tell me to get out aor amie bhi ke bahir nikloo bachon se sath apni routine change karo but i dont feel like it …anyways i ll try to do something abt it …and i mean it ..Thanks for ur lovely reply , it can be very usefull:k:

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*Originally posted by baba-jee: *
depression achy cheez heh, depressed insaan koh khuda yaad ata heh, insaan kee usleeyut yaad atee heh, ek rawayut meh likawa heh Allah is with the broken hearted.

and friends i''ll tell u bout friends, theyre good for u, when they want theyre uses, and when theyre done and u need them, where r they, any where to be seen? What kind of friends r those, theyre not friends theyre buqwaas, id rather stay at home all day then have friends like that. Jiskah Allah heh uskoh or kya chaya heh? Jis keh paas kana heh uskoh or kya chaya heh, jiskeh paas gur heh uskoh or kya chaya heh?

U see how it works is everyone thinks theyre problems are the worst in the world right? U look at others laffing and enjoying life, but man everyone knows that isnt the case, everyone has problems some less then others some more then others. Buss all i can say is depression meh be kush raina or khushy meh depressed rehna---- if u dnt understand me watch the film sharaabi----- and yaaad rukna there is always a happy ending!
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aap bhi sahi haiN baba , when ever i am depressed mujay Allah kuch zeeada he yaad atta hai , sometimes i think we ppl are really mean , mushkal meiN ussay yaad kartay hain bus...wasay i am Not naashukri , i am one oh those jinn ki zuban par har waqat shukar al hamdoillaha rahata hai , i have to thanks Allah for so many things ...bus kabhi kabhi mayaosi chaa jati haiN , kya kareen Insan jo haiN jo kisi haal meiN bhi mutmeean nahi hota hai.thanks for reply

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**Afshan, aik baat kahoon agar aap mind na kerain to??? Meray saath bhi pehlay aessa hi hota tha…phir mein nay realize kiya key mera her waqt depressed rehnay ki waja sey mera attitude jo key bilkul negative ho gaya tha, without my even noticing it, wo hi loogon ko mujh sey bhagata tha. Then I tried forcing myself to be happier…and that really made a big difference. So, just cheer up and your attitude will automatically improve, attracting people to you. **

:flower2: :flower2: :flower2: :flower2: :flower2: <-------For all the depressed people…I hope you feel better soon!!!

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PlatinumGal, mind kis baat per karon, u r 100% right, laikin baat ye hai k main already kafi jolly nature ki hon, hansna hansana meri kafi hobby rahi hai ...ab bhi hai per its not like that as it was 2 or 3 yrs back.....and dear i've lost ppl even after having that jolly nature.......per koi nahee its part of life...kia kiya ja sakta hai....:)
i try to keep myself bz and spend rest of my time (after office) in watching TV and in offering prayers and reciting quran-e-pak.

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Afshan, your after office hours activities are excellent :k:. But you know, there are some people who are quite different from usually the way people are but are still great people…some people just don’t know how to appreciate unique people like that:smack:…so don’t worry about it, it’s their loss…Look how many times I said “people”.:Pretty:

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I know what you mean about depression... I think everyone goes through it at one time or another. Hopefully, we can learn from our experiences and come out stronger. But it sure helps to have a support group to share thoughts and emotions with. I hope you feel better soon. Praying and reflecting on the root issue tends to help turn things around. Take Care and remember tomorrow is another day!

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No offense here, but our desi women tend to get depressed too easily about the smallest things. I'm not saying that your worries are little, just making an observation.

Anyhow, the secret to true, ever lasting happiness is, and this may sound cheesy, is to do your best and then put the rest in God's hands. God protects the true believers. The quran says in one chapter, something to the effect of, the true believer shall neither grieve nor fear.

What do humans FEAR? Humans fear what may happen in the FUTURE. Well, trust in God, do your best and what is ordained by God to happen, will happen, nothing you can do about it.

What do humans GRIEVE? Humans grieve what has happened in the PAST. It's in the past, it doesn't matter, whether something good or bad happened, it has happened, you cannot undo it.

So in the ever lasting words of Van Halen, all you have to worry about is right here, right now. Live now righteously, purely, and everything else will unfold around you.

When you worship God alone, everything works. What is worship, you worship whatever occupies your mind most. If you think about money all the time even whey you say your 5 namaazes, that doesn't mean you're worshipping god, you're worshipping money. When all your thoughts are occupied by your children, you worship your children. To truely worship god, your mind is most occupied by god. I'm not saying you shouldn't think about your children a LOT, you should, but you should praise God for giving you that gift. I'm not saying you shouldn't think about your finances, you should, you have to, but you should thank God for what you DO have when you think about your finances, and ask god for more if you need it, asking god for material things in not wrong, it's also worshipping god, who else are you gonna ask if not god?

Don't be bad weather worshippers which. The quran in one chapter states that there are people who will remember god when stuck in a bad storm on the open sea, but as soon as they step on shore they forget god. When you step on shore, you should thank god and thank god every day for what you have...

Remember, life could always be worse.