Re: Conversations before and after marriage
The key word here is mature. Quite often parents are in a rush to get kids (especially girls) married off simply b/c of the imaginary age cut off (get them hitched before they get too old). Thus, they don’t take into account whether or not the young adult is actually has the maturity to handle being married.
Bingo! #1 concern here is the parents/family’s izzat…what will people say if he/she breaks off engagement etc. The couple’s happiness doesn’t rank #1 in anyone’s list when it comes to MOST of these strict arranged marriages IMO. From engagement to details of the wedding…the underlying focus is always about not doing anything to bring negative attention/shame to the family.