Just a general thought that came to me: do you think there is anything such as talking to the fiancé too much? Are certain conversations best left till after marriage to add mystery?
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talk relating to your in-laws...!!! :)
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Zayda baat cheet nahi :nono:werna baad mae dishkiyun dishkiyun 
…jitna hu sakey ammi se baat ccheet rakhiye:p
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She know’s what’s up.
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You're talking too much to ur fiancé if u start having zabardasti ki fights. And I don't think that's very feasible... Keeping in touch with MIL... Gives them too much info and too many chances to find keeray in u.
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Anything beyond what you need to know to decide if you should go ahead with it or not.
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kiski ammi? Fiance ki??
The worst advice ever given.
OP please don’t listen to her and Fariha, aisa tum bhi mat karlena!!
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Just a general thought that came to me: do you think there is anything such as talking to the fiancé too much? Are certain conversations best left till after marriage to add mystery?
Enjoy your present. You can talk anything or everything except some secrets that you hold. Secrets should be told after building a lot of trust. And real trust develops after you live with the person. Only then you come to know the Real He!!
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Awww sista i was joking kon baaat karey gaa
App bhi naa the worst advice ever:omg:
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Yes. Don't talk too much.....keep it short...... the amount of maslay that arise out of this each others' tooi invasion is tooo damn high.
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yes, if you are obsessed with them. Talk to them when you are both free and dont talk when you are busy and have your own thing going on.
Relax and have fun.
Although I am first to admit that only comes with a complete sense of security - self security and security within your relationship.
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Lol at the 'keeray' comment.
Anything beyond what you need to know to decide if you should go ahead with it or not.
So you mean, once the two respective persons have covered the important things in life, limit contact altogether?
Yes. Don't talk too much.....keep it short...... the amount of maslay that arise out of this each others' tooi invasion is tooo damn high.
I've seen engagements break from general chit-chat too, so hence my question: what is a reasonable amount of contact and what conversations are best left till after marriage?!
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Some interesting mixed replies.
On one hand, I think it's important to open up and general talking allows for both the boy and girl to discover things about each other in a relaxed manner, removing any awkwardness or formalities at the beginning of a marriage.
And on the other hand, I like the idea of opening up to one another within time. It adds to the mystery and fun.
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just make sure you have an open and honest conversation about:
living situ after marriage
expectations re: in laws
religious levels/expectations
working/jobs etc
Children - are you on the same page
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Don't you guys think talking more will increase love & affection between the two of them & they will be more comfortable with one another after marriage?
Having less conversations can break engagements too what if the other person thinks that he/she is simply ignoring, not interested, trying to avoid etc.
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han han ab statement change kardo 
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I've seen engagements break from general chit-chat too, so hence my question: what is a reasonable amount of contact and what conversations are best left till after marriage?!
Isn't is better than the 2 people decide to break their engagement now versus getting divorced later?
What's reasonable is a totally individual question. Major life decisions should be discussed to make sure both parties are on the same page. But its difficult to just make a list and discuss everything like robots. General chit chat about random things can bring up issues that are small but still important. Having a difference in opinions or even an argument can be a good thing b/c you get to see how the other person reacts in that situation and whether or not two of you are capable of solving differences like mature adults. Not everyone handles frustration/anger in a healthy manner. So lets say you're engaged to a guy who tends to become irate, insulting, and even verbally abusive if a woman disagrees with him (things must always be done how HE wants them done)........isn't it better you find this out now rather than after the nikah?
In an arranged situation....I guess the only topic I can think of right that should be left alone during the engagement period are details related to sex. But otherwise...family, interest, religion, politics, hobbies, friends, children.....pretty much everything else should be fine.
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yes.