Conversations before and after marriage

[SaeedinPakistan]

Re: Conversations before and after marriage

@LucyMay

I’m not Muslim, but I find the transition very abrupt.

**Well people probably don’t jump into it right after marriage. Yeah they do share a bed, but I’m guessing it takes a few weeks or even months for some to get comfortable enough to get down to business.
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I’m just guessing here. Married folk are in a better position to explain this.

Educating does assume an openness to discussion. I’m not professing that people should have pre-marital sex. Just that in this day and age it is strange to brush this important subject under the carpet.

But then the couple doesn’t have to go for counselling together, they don’t have to talk about it with each other before marriage ( they’re going to eventually ). I agree people should know the basics of reproductive health, but respecting cultural boundaries is the only way of scoring public approval for such programs.

Even talking to a fiance is a concession in some households. You don’t want to do anything to risk that privilege being taken away. If that is not the case, then you can use your own judgement on what kind of conversation is okay. Don’t forget to consider how things might backfire though.