Abhay yaar. They know. They're no bewaqoofs. If they want to pursue, they pursue. Most of the girls I knew who got married with very little education had no interest in school and were pretty bad at it. These girls are going to educate their kids well? Whatever.
As for moral education and all that tripe, if you have zero studently habits your not going to sit through Islam classes any easier. So what morals
are you passing down? Not turning your hw in on time? Having a poor work ethic? Cheating on exams? Disrespecting the teacher by talking with friends in the middle of a class? Focusing your time and energy on make-up and clothes instead of learning something? Spending your time after school on the phone gossiping instead of doing HW?
I've been through public school with these types of characters. They either got married right after HS or they did 2 yrs of community college advertising themselves as "I'm studying medical" when really they were remediating biology and THEN they got married.
You think these women will be strong moms? Mmph. I've seen their kids. Just as much waste of air and resources as their moms.
Just as much waste of air and resources as their moms.
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they might be thinking the same about you so stop whinning and don't socialize with them, period. I am sure no one can MAKE you go to the dreaded event forecefully (knowing you from your hot air talk its highly unlikely)
PCG...I know the type you're referring to and agree that they're annoying and kinda useless. lol, this one that I know tells me all the time about how some dean at harvard BEGGED her to enroll...but her parents wanted her to persue marriage and likea good daughter, she did. Of course, MY husband was "offered" toher but she turned him down. Yadayada...SHEESH. (Hubby laughed his arse off when he heard THAT one!)
Anyhoo....why are you hanging out with them? You're in US right? Why not persue your own personal interests even if they are outside of the desi community? You dont really HAVE to limit yourself do you?
Mostly they are synonymous. I exclude the category of women with prior job experience who are now at home with their kids, like MO3. I plan on taking a year or two at home with each kid of mine. Doesn't mean you have to stop being productive or being a contributory citizen. Big difference between a soccer mom who has worked before and maybe does work from home now who at least has a bachelors education and our usual matric pass girl who got imported for shaadi from Pakistan and can't do anything, can barely speak well, and spends all her time painting nails and talking about bollywood dramas. And in our culture, who has an easier time finding rishtas? It's the uneducated girl because as most pakistanis are jaahils, jahaliyat is in demand.
When I refer to SAHMs with contempt that's who I'm talking about. The contempt is not because of jealousy. It is because of shame that this is what my country is represented by.
Job experience doesn't grant you some sort of out worldly knowledge that your growth as a human adult is in complete without it. Yes, I do agree that working in a professional field is a worth while experience and like most other experiences teaches you something different. Along with that just like any other experience your life is not incomplete just because you don't have one particular type of experience. People who are educated and did not get a chance to work because of any xyz reason are still very decent human beings (believe me) as long as they had good upbringing and that extends to people who are not very highly educated but brought up in good families. You just have to open your mind and give them a chance.
Most of the nail painting ladies that you are talking about working class women who have the kind of money and time to waste on that garbage. A mom who is taking care of 2-3 kids does not have that sort of time and MO3 can confirm that.
Lastly, i don't know the kind of people you are hanging out with but no one, even if they are jahil, want a jahil DIL. Everyone wants the best daughter in law that they can get and I don't know anyone who wants to settle with a jahil one.
I would respect any home staying moms nurturing her children in good way regardless of their education background, more than running around professional and so called educated women who would neglect their families.
PCG, you have problem with everything and everyone.
now your constant complaining habit puts wrong impression on men that all educated women are whiners like you.
after working 9-12 hours on work, i so dont want to discuss any work with my family and friends. rather i will try to get updates of all the gossips i missed.
girls usually not interested in talking about Quran, sunnah, politics, sports. but they do discuss movies, fashion, latest trends, food, their in-laws and kids.
if you cant follow the majority, then dont follow and make your own daid eent ki masjid.
Job experience doesn't grant you some sort of out worldly knowledge that your growth as a human adult is in complete without it. Yes, I do agree that working in a professional field is a worth while experience and like most other experiences teaches you something different. Along with that just like any other experience your life is not incomplete just because you don't have one particular type of experience. People who are educated and did not get a chance to work because of any xyz reason are still very decent human beings (believe me) as long as they had good upbringing and that extends to people who are not very highly educated but brought up in good families. You just have to open your mind and give them a chance.
after working 9-12 hours on work, i so dont want to discuss any work with my family and friends. rather i will try to get updates of all the gossips i missed.
girls usually not interested in talking about Quran, sunnah, politics, sports. but they do discuss movies, fashion, latest trends, food, their in-laws and kids.
I don't have a problem carrying on a conversation with most SAHMs since they're regular folk like me, regardless of their background or interests.
But there is one subset of SAHM who do get on my nerves. They're the ones who only talk about clothes and fashion, and gossip about everyone. They're the narcissistic ones whose conversations revolve aroung their lives with their own families and they look down at single girls or working moms. But, my solution, I choose to avoid them.
PCG, you have problem with everything and everyone.
now your constant complaining habit puts wrong impression on men that all educated women are whiners like you.
after working 9-12 hours on work, i so dont want to discuss any work with my family and friends. rather i will try to get updates of all the gossips i missed.
girls usually not interested in talking about Quran, sunnah, politics, sports. but they do discuss movies, fashion, latest trends, food, their in-laws and kids.
if you cant follow the majority, then dont follow and make your own daid eent ki masjid.
Majority of the SAHM's I've met are extremely pleasant, they don't talk about baby food, diapers and what they cooked that day.. current affairs, events and even sports.
what do you non-SAHMs normally talk about? How to conserve energy, the failing democratic system, parallel universes, black holes and unidentified flying objects, how men have ruined womens lives…
most women i hang out with are SAHMs. Some have never worked. Others have and have taken time off to raise kids.. and some have taken time off permanently to stay at home.
There's a varying kind of SAHMs.. just like there is a varying kind of women who work. Theres the mother who works, the wife that works or the single person who works... and then the ages of these people make a difference too
I know i get along better with someone (conversationally) who is a working mother, as opposed to a SAHM or even a single women working. But that's cus we can discuss how to manage dinners better, how to manage the household... not that u cant discuss that with someone whose a SAHM.. just u feel like someone whose in the same boat as you, understands ur situation slightly better.
well, pcg judging from your recent posts you ARE watching the drama "kalmohi" and know who the heck madiha iftikhar is and how apparently she's only good for dumb blonde roles sooo maybe you're not alllll that different from all those drama watching housewives afterwall :) why don't you discuss these things and in a less derogatory manner than you always discuss housewives here on GS?
