PCG yea ... they can be ... u don't have to have a PhD to raise kids who are studious ... i mean both my mom and dad are doctors (MD and PHD) but i don't remember them teaching me anything after grade 9-10 ... i learned by myself by doing homework and goin to skool like everyone else... they did tell me to study and put effort into my education but u don't really need a degree to do that ... to telll kids to study
its like asking the CEO of a nuclear power plant to be a physicist ... he doesn't have to be ... he has to have proper leadership skills and thats required of a parent too ... good parents skills and not a doctorate in anything
Nami, there are plenty of uneducated moms who don't even have baath karne ki tameez. In fact, that applies to nearly every uneducated girl I've met. Education is a big deal. Never marry anyone who did any less than a bachelors. And that too at a decent school at least.
Someone who isn't educated like MO3's sil, is the best educator for kids? Best meaning better than someone with a college education...
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Yeah, ok.
A parent is responsible for their moral upbringing and providing them with a good education...meaning making sure they have access to the right education.
PCG, I know this may sound weird but educated parents dont make the best ones necessarily. They do a lot of stupid things - even worse sometimes - than our uneducated parents. They're so career driven, they cant see past their noses. I know some girls like that...whose priorities are themselves and thats it. They shouldnt have ever had kids but they did because now that they have a degree, a home, a car, are married...well the next step is to have kids! DUH!
PCG yea ... they can be ... u don't have to have a PhD to raise kids who are studious ... i mean both my mom and dad are doctors (MD and PHD) but i don't remember them teaching me anything after grade 9-10 ... i learned by myself by doing homework and goin to skool like everyone else... they did tell me to study and put effort into my education but u don't really need a degree to do that ... to telll kids to study
its like asking the CEO of a nuclear power plant to be a physicist ... he doesn't have to be ... he has to have proper leadership skills and thats required of a parent too ... good parents skills and not a doctorate in anything
I agree.
Nami, there are plenty of uneducated moms who don't even have baath karne ki tameez. In fact, that applies to nearly every uneducated girl I've met. Education is a big deal. Never marry anyone who did any less than a bachelors. And that too at a decent school at least.
Education is a big deal, yes. Knowing what you know is important but there are some things schools cannot teach you...manners...grace...a good and positive attitude...generosity...ability to love...morals...these things are not taught in schools...they're taught at home and you dont need to have a PhD. You need to know how to instill this in your children.
Of course, a lot of this wont make any sense to a lot of us until we have kids of our own. When you go through it, things change.
dude what kind of people do you hang out with? stop hanging out with high school dropouts and future plumbers/mechanics, etc. most Pakistani guys who pursue professional education don't slut around.
btw, you should be nice to the SAHMs. their network probably has more eligible singles than yours. you wanna be nice to them. think of it as an investment.
My mum hates the idhar udhar type talk and would rather talker to people of a younger generation at gatherings just so she can escape from the conversations which veer around the mehngaye of sabzi and darzis getting clothes stitched wrong. I thik some women out there, regardless of occupation like holding proper conversations and others who want to relax and not engage in much intellectual banter, stick to doing idhar udhar talk.
Mostly they are synonymous. I exclude the category of women with prior job experience who are now at home with their kids, like MO3. I plan on taking a year or two at home with each kid of mine. Doesn't mean you have to stop being productive or being a contributory citizen. Big difference between a soccer mom who has worked before and maybe does work from home now who at least has a bachelors education and our usual matric pass girl who got imported for shaadi from Pakistan and can't do anything, can barely speak well, and spends all her time painting nails and talking about bollywood dramas. And in our culture, who has an easier time finding rishtas? It's the uneducated girl because as most pakistanis are jaahils, jahaliyat is in demand.
When I refer to SAHMs with contempt that's who I'm talking about. The contempt is not because of jealousy. It is because of shame that this is what my country is represented by.
hmmm....I wonder how those gals would react to conversation about adult education classes...many of which are free or very low cost...english classes, accounting, high school equivalency, college prep classes etc. Those gals probaby dont know about them, so you could encourage them to persue.
