Conversation material with SAHM's

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LOL…

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“Are they fake or real?”

So much energy being spent to find out what to talk to SAHM’s… :smack:

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Pkgirl, Pakistani dramas, at least the real ones, are in a different class of art from bollywood star tv trash that most of the girls around here watch. If I talk to them about Pakistani dramas, I'm viewed as a nerd. I don't have tv at my apartment so I watch kalmohi here and there and have seen like 3 episodes of it while doing something else. But as an experenced viewer of good Pakistani dramas (since I was like 8), I know a quality performance when I see it. Please don't lump saania sawed with the likes of these idiotic bollywood bimbos that all these SAHM's pine for.

I didn't know who madiha iftikhar was by name until I saw her picture and I've seen her in the partition drama which was a landmark project in pakistan's art scene. She however, managed to really undermine the quality of the project with her novice garbage performance. Even though Pakistani dramas have gone bolly, it is worth watching trailers here and there to find a gem like kalmohi. And no, I don't have time to watch it but I have a vacay coming up soon and will watch it then. In the meantime, I, unlike others here, am working for a living and busting my arse because I don't believe in taking handouts from people. Not even my own parents, like what some bewaqoof girls do shamelessly while they wait for prince charming (Aka doctor from the US) to propose.

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^ PCG, then u must have watched all the old ones from the like late 70's early 80's.. or even the black and white dramas... i bet there an old drama thread somewhere

ive stopped watching pak dramas... the constant camera angles of the one face shown about a dozen times make me dizzy.

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Oh WOW so its bad for girls to be supported by their parents? Shabash. :hehe:

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Sara you work and you pitch in. You're not having your family wait on you. I know girls who do that and their parents just get overburdened. Help them out, will ya? Even our Islam says we children should try to make our Parents' lives easier. I have a lot of respect for the poor girl who works to help out her household (not child labor but like a part time job in college or something).

Sadzz: yeah most of my drama watching dates to the 80's and 90's. When I hit high school, I stopped having time. But I tried to watch the ones that stand out and had literary value.

It's how I know my Urdu. And it's how I've learned about my culture.

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Okay, as much as I alwyas defend stay at home moms, I hate to admit that there IS that subset of women who think being a mother ends at them giving birth. I know one such example (and thankfully only ONE) that is exactly the description above.

This debate is never really gonna end....I think all of us should be totally honest with ourselves, that if we are doing the best we can in our roles, then its useless to get so offended and angry if someone makes an ignorant statement..b/c those people are never really going to get it.

That said, there are still women who were good in school and good students but just did not have hte ambition or desire to pursue medicine or any other intensive field so they got married and became stay at home moms...I dont think theres anything wrong with that.

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same mostly... i knew urdu beforehand but learnt a lot of it from dramas. I used to go through all the haseen moin dramas.. then there were the anwar maqsood dramas... sigh. The good old days

back on topic.. I went to a lunch a week ago where most of the desi aunties were educated... they were either lecturers, lawyers or charity workers. There was a completely different kind of aura about them...

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Rest assured that will be your last ‘dawat’.

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who want's to converse with those low lives, anyways?

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I suppose some women have it easy, and they carry on without any ambition to do anything productive. I know it's good to stay at home and look after the kids but that SHOULD NOT be the be all and end all of your life.

I am going to be at home for a 1 or 2 years to look after the baby but that's it. It's healthy to go back to my career and carry on with my education. I think I would suffocate when I think about me being at home just cooking, cleaning and watching daytime TV. It would literally kill me and I could never be a full time SAHM. As long as I give my children time when they are at home and be productive on the weekends with them why should I waste my time at home when they will be at school anyway? There is sooooooo much we women can achieve in those 8 hours while our kids are at school or nursery instead of just cooking, cleaning and shopping.

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Why dont u sit in the corner with other unmarried late twenties ladies .. at least u would have a common topic.

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Debating on working moms vs SAHM is just such a good way to waste your precious time and energy.

C'mon people we all have different lives , different set of problems , different back grounds , different relations , different family bounding , different values and we decide our way of life the way it suits our needs the best ! If some SAHM lady called "A" does not have exactly same problems in life as I have then I should not be compared to her it as simple as that.

There are so many women out there who works 9-10 hours a day so that they can send their children to good school or to build her children a house or to save money for children's education or marriage or to support parents etc and they should no way be considered as selfish or as someone who is living her own professional life and spending money to buy material things etc etc. You are not in their shoes so don't judge them , you don't know what their intentions are , what is going on in their lives.

On the other hand SAHM should also not be considered as unproductive or time waster etc etc They are just not house wives they are HOME MAKERS ! They should be looked at with respect.They too have their own problems and life's objective and they have opted to be a SAHM because it suited them the best. I am sure many of us here have stay home moms .......my mom has been a house wife for past 30 year and I am so proud of her and respect her. If it was okay for our moms why is it not okay for moms of today's generation ?

and to answer the question of the thread - you can discus various issues with a SAHM .......being a SAHM does not make her a different creature ......cooking , stitching , TV , films , politics , religion , gardening , home decoration , relationships and the list can go on :)

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not all of these women choose to be single...

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So because you like pakistani dramas they are somehow pakistani art and some how some of them are landmark projects and watever else and just because u don't like bollywood movies they are idiotic time wasters. Its pretty much saying that just cuz i don't like classical music mozart is crap. there are some bollywood movies that have been nominated for international awards so i'm pretty sure they have something going on for them where as i have yet to see anything like that for a pakistani drama. it just that you've been watching them since u were 8. So for god's sake stop generalizing and thinking that everyone beneath you because they are not.
As far as earning and being a burden on their husband and dad is concerned trust me these ladies know their financial position better than you or me and they stay at home because they can afford to do and their husband has a good enough job that they can have one of them stay at home.

p.s. I am not a fan of bollywood movies or pakistani dramas ... they are more or less the same to me

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First of all, I cannot understand where this concept of being a burden on husbands has come about. And with all this independence of women, why have we lost the humility? Being proud of your accomplishments is one thing but oh my goodness...looking down at women who stay home or to say they have nothing of value to offer to society or that they can't even have a decent conversation is shallow.

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None of the SAHMs I know are only metric pass and we do have tons to talk about when we meet up (excluding babies)...... like I said before PCG, get out of Florida as fast as you can.

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Well, PCG, has the dawat happened? Were you able to bear the company of those inferior women? I hope it wasn't too torturous.

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wife , mother , daughter , sister are never a burden. Allah has placed financial responsibility of a daughter on her father and of a wife on her husband , He has never asked a woman to earn. So if Almighty Allah has placed financial responsibility of a woman on father or husband then how can she be a burden?

Whatever a man gives to woman he gets it via naseeb of that woman. Man are just a vaseela or a source..... a woman gets what is in her naseeb via a man.

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diamond321, dont bring Allah and religion into conversations like this. It will become a technical and emotional disaster. :hehe:

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okay Niksik :bummer: