Continuing on a topic raised by SarahSplendor

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After reading the replies to this thread, it seems to me that the youth in Pakistan have been experimenting around and getting into things that are better left for after marriage.

Yet, I see desi folks abroad showing lack of interest in desi larkian abroad because most are somehow more azad-khayal and aren't as innocent as the larkian back home.

This no longer seems to be the case. I'm beginning to feel that most of Pakistani larkian abroad are a lot more patient and cautious about what we should not get ourselves into, as compared to those who reside in Pakistan. Yes, this is a gross generalization, but often when I talk to people back home I feel they seem to be far ahead of those residing in the West.

For all I know, a desi larki from abroad may end up getting married to someone back home who has had a gf in the past. In fact, I know of an individual who didn't have a bf all her life, whereas her husband from Pakistan did.

It is also quite wrong to assume that most desi guys in Pakistan are worse than Pakistani larkian back home. That is because there must be girls who they go out with, otherwise they wouldn't be experimenting around.

It really makes me sick and angry because often desi females in the West have this bad connotation attached to them that they are somehow more vulgar/bad as compared to the girls back home.

Re: Continuing on a topic raised by SarahSplendor

One of my more religious cousins back in Karachi was lamenting to me how rampant dating and going even further than that has become - and she was from one of the less prosperous branches of my family, lower-middle class.

Promiscuity is not, it seems, limited only to the wealthy in Pakistan.

My cousin's explanation is that many youth in Pakistan with access to western culture (movies, music & TV) try hard to emulate what they see, since they perceive it as cool. In doing so, they sink to greater depths than many Pakistanis in the West, who maintain a sense of perspective about the West through living there.

I think that as Sohail's argument has shown, pre-marital sexual activity occurs all through Pakistani society. It's just that with the exception of the upper elite where it can happen openly, Pakistanis are very good at hiding their promiscuity.

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No!!! really!!! wow!!! no wonder why you named yourself Wise One.

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My God verizon that was some sarcasm