Awe you are welcome! I live in the middle of nowhere upstate NY. I’m not sure of this but I would think that My mother would probably definitely consider sewing you a dress of your choice as long as you were able to make the trip up a few times for proper fittings and trials. The problem would be in regards to the kaam on the dress. It would take her way too long to do that. Is there someone else you know that can embroider, do beadwork and such?
It took my mom an entire year to sew my elder khala’s bridal lehngaa… she did all the beadwork, embroidery, etc. herself by hand - all her design. That is the only reason why I know that this stuff takes a long time. Ha - the two sisters still talk about what a massive (but special) project that was that my mom had undertaken. But it was all completely my mom’s vision and style. This lenghaa was actually the “final project” for some college course she was taking. ha.
Do not give up hope!!! there are sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo many bridal stores out there and you have a million more to try on! As soon as you enter the store, first thing: ask if they can sew sleeves onto a dress you like. Sometimes its not the bridal store itself, but the desiginer of the bridal dress that will do this for you.
I think this would work! I have family in Port Chester. I am definitely going to go back and forth for my wedding planning. I could definitely get the kaam done from Pakistan and maybe your mom do the stitching.
Can you PM me your email address so that I can show you pix of what I have in mind, and you can give me a quote?
DF, its not gonna work lol. I am going to go back to wearing a lengha, But I am probably going to throw in some american twists! lol
^please do!
I think a lehnga would look much better…I’ve seen western gowns look nice on desi brides TWICE. Once was a desi VJ who wore one at a reception party, but it was also strapless, fitted etc and she had the body (and guts) to pull that off. The other was a guppan who posted her pics and as far as I remember, she had it made in Pakistan so it was a gown with sleeves that actually looked good… but it was also culturally appropriate because her husband was not Pakistani. she wore a traditional red jora on her baraat and her husband wore a sherwani, and she wore a white wedding dress on her valima and he wore a suit.
I wanted to wear a white wedding dress for a while too until a couple of good friends told me I would “look like a tool.” hehe…well anyways, I think most gowns in the west are really pretty but then they look awful with sleeves. Unless you’re getting it made in Pakistan, I would say just stick with a lehnga but maybe do it in a cream or pearl color.
on a similar note, funny that most of us think that white girls can’t pull off OUR outfits but we think we can pull off theirs.
haha yeah. I totally agree! I’ve tried on so many dresses in the past two days that I was seeing dresses everywhere lol.
I think it is best to wear a lengha, and maybe give it some american features.
Thanks for all of the advice ladies.