Re: conservative hubby
In what way do you want him to express his view/opinions to you…so that it doesn’t come across as shoving to you? The thing is that when we are very defensive and adamant about something…even if the other person was to express their opposing opinion calmly and nicely…it’ll still sound like shoving and lecturing.
If you mind him giving an opinion to you…then what are you going to do? Cuz people have opinions all the time. Not just ur husband. Including you. Everybody has opinions.
People generally feel that’s insufficient to tell someone that something is wrong or they shouldn’t do it. It can work with an infant. But when u r dealing with am adult, the other feels the need to explain why a certain action is wrong so you understand where they’re coming from and so that they’re opinion doesn’t read as just bossiness. I think that’s a normal reaction. If I were to disagree with a friend or my sister or parent or coworker on something, I’ll explain my reasons behind it and that’s a natural thing to do. But if you are not open to religion, then you will interpret every explanation of his as “shoving/lecturing/self-righteousness”…whereas his intention might be that he’s trying to explain why be holds a certain view.