conservative hubby

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Re: conservative hubby

@Mirch

You are hung up about tank tops and tattoos and I am hung up around the fact that he accepted her tattoos , tank tops , male friends etc. etc before the nikah and all this is forbidden after nikah. She did not start telling him to stop doing what he is doing rather he is working on changing her that too not delicately but with brute force. His tactics are not going to work on her. She lives in a free society where freedom of speech and freedom of expression is cherished more than religion even by religious folks.
Islam realizes there is not bullying in religion. You must have heard this verse: La Ikrah fiddeen. ( there is no coercion in religion)

I read that he knew about her tattoos prior to marriage. But where has she said that her husband ALSO knew about her tank tops and her non-halal diet prior to marriage? I’m not challenging you here…I am genuinely curious as to whether he knew about ALL her habits prior to marriage or if he found out about some of them only recently.

Since the mention of religion is making some folks chafe as usual…that is precisely why I included examples of non-Muslim marriages in my posts…to highlight the point that MUCH of this has to do with common sense than religion.

You don’t need to even believe in a religion to understand the importance of making a genuine effort to compromise in a relationship. That goes without saying. But OP doesn’t get it.

If her husband doesn’t get it, she doesn’t get it either. If her husband is being stubborn, she’s being stubborn too. If he isn’t compromising, she isn’t compromising either. Why not place mutual responsibility? You can believe all you want that he is the one who needs to be more patient with her…but that does not exempt her from accountability. She also has to reciprocate patience as well and find out other solutions and options in working around conflicts as opposed to wanting it entirely her way. Two way street, Mirch.