Re: conservative hubby
Agree with all your post. After reading all the posts and some more from OP, I think he took this huge responsibility upon her parents’ request who feared their daughter might turn “bad” and thought getting her a “good” husband will keep her away from sins (her own relevation). Please also see wher she said he is a good guy. I read it all later. So actually she is very lucky to have a good natured guy as her husband who is not bullying her. While the parents’ did the best for her by finding her a good human and they were not wrong in their decision, nobody can keep her protected if she herself does not want to be.
and you’re right about using wrong tools to take on this challenge is not going to help. The best of relationships in mature adults end up with misunderstandings, doubt and bitterness through long distance communication. How can a rebellious 20 year old with mind of a 13 year old and a young simple and “good guy” be expected to develop a good understanding between them over phone/skype??? People tend to overlook little things which matter a lot in making and breaking a relationship. Little things like bad communication in which you feel no emotions, see no body language and act as per the “voice” you hear. Like she said she agreed to marry him because she liked him and was attracted to him. I’m sure if he would be telling her the same things which he is telling her now while physically being in her company, she would most probably agree to all that he tells her because she likes him. But on phone she does not see his emotions, his charm, feel warmth of his words hence she is taking him and the marriage like a robotic / roommate kind of situation she might have dealt with earlier with other guys.