Re: conservative hubby
It’s totally fine to want to live your own way. Even in Pakistan I was friends with girls who wore tank tops, had tattoos and had tons of guy friends. They married their boyfriends or guys who are like minded or are still dating. They still go out and party hand in hand with their significant others. The hijabi girls married the more conservative guys and they’re happy as well. Other than one or two girls who dated a lot, turned hijabi and married religious guys I have not seen too much intermingling of different lifestyle preferences.
Arranged marriages are tricky. And yours does not look like it’ll be a happy one. I rarely say this but I think you should be looking at ending your marriage and try again five, six years from now. This marriage is giving nothing to you or the guy. You guys have nothing in common, and you’re too young to attempt to compromise. Instead of pushing it till it ends in 5 years and with a kid to boot you should sit down and discuss this seriously with your parents. I think desi parents abroad think it’ll be difficult for their daughter’s to get married so they take the first chance they get but what’s the point of the marriage if it makes no one happy.