Consequences of a mixed faith/cultural marriage

[Maula_Jatt]

Re: Consequences of a mixed faith/cultural marriage

@shaasavera

Interesting question Maula Jatt. I actually don’t know many Pakistanis who have had mixed marriages or those who have married non Muslims. I don’t know if it is common at all. I’d say not that common. I think it depends what religion the girl is if it is a Muslim-Non Muslim marriage and what race is involved. It would be interesting to know if the family would be more accepting if a Pakistani guy marries a Pakistani/Indian Christian girl compared to a European Christian girl.

I know of a far off example but don’t know personally the dynamics involved. Would Pakistani/Indian marriages count as mixed? So this Pakistani guy married an Indian Sikh/Christian girl. The parents had been family friends for many years and knew each other. The parents of the children were both doctors who worked together. In the beginning it was tense and both sides of parents did not accept it. Both of them persevered. His parents did not go to the wedding and they got married in India. Her side of the family were there but mainly the parents. Her parents told her to adjust to fit in with the family.. The girl’s father i heard was of the thought process she should convert so that the family would accept her and it would be easier for her. .. but both the boy and girl were not very traditional, not very religious and had similar outlook on life.

He was on the verge of being disowned earlier i think. But the parents have come around to it. They disagreed initially but now they get along with the wife. Both families also get along now

They are living solo overseas. No children. Although I think parents come around with children. Not sure about extended family.

Pakistani Indian marriages count as a mixed marriage but culturally it is far more easier, especially when it comes to children.

@Deeba1234

I know quite a few.. I’m a product of a mixed marriage as well as being in one myself.. It’s as easy or as hard as you make it imo..

I know of a few people outside my family who were disowned years ago but the parents came round and accepted the marriages in all but one case.. I think most parents don’t have the heart to shut their kids out forever, even if they threaten to..

Agree. I’ve heard this many times and agree with it. More hopeful maybe hahah

Thanks for your responses everyone. They’ve provided a good insight.

I’ve always been curious about language.

How important do partners consider transferring their own mother tongues to their children?

In mixed marriages does one language/culture end up dominating the other? Or is it easy for both cultures to coexist?