Heyy ppl…My friend and her boyfrend share a very healthy relationship since last 4 years…and things are changing for them…now the family knows but guy’s mom is a bit upset from the fact that her son has chosen a gurl for himself without even our permission…yeah shez an old school mother…but inshallah she’ll agree some day…
This couple used to talk lyk for hours every night and they used to keep on texting each other all day long…now kahani mai twist ye that this guy has finally stepped into the practicle world and started working and now it is really hard for him to talk all night etc…
The girl complains and the guy politely explains that too much of communication always spoils the relationship which is happening in thier case…and the guy says that he feels that they should not talk too much and should’nt meet much as they’ll loose their charm and marriage wont be too exciting for them…he feels talking once in 10 days is enough cuz when they’ll get married there will be more excitement and attraction…
But the girl does not understand this concept and is arguing her lungs off…which is taking the relationship to some other direction…
Now I would like to know is he thinking logically??? you all think it happens loosing charm n all???
Yeah one more thing…the guy is very faithful..he sincerely loves her…
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No, there's no charm in marriage. I'd actually recommend that you two communicate with each other before you get married. Communicate with her or you WILL lose her interest. She will get frustrated and stop sharing anything with you. If this is more than infatuation, it will last.
P.S. I am assuming this "friend" of yours doesn't exist. :D
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Talking all night and texting all day is hardly communication. Sounds nothing more than jibber jabber, random gossip.
The guy should not impose guidelines on how often to talk, but at the same time, the girl needs to come to her senses. He is working now, perhaps 8-9 hours a day. He needs his sleep during the night, and no doubt, has other activities besides yapping with her.
They just need to be practical, the both of them, and maintain a decent amount of contact, without going overboard.
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^ Dude, his "friend" thinks talking to his girlfriend once every 10 days is enough! That's hardly enough.
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Once every 10 days? whew... they should talk everyday.. maybe for a few mins, if he doesn't have a lot of time. .but I feel the guy is losing interest. How come all these years they weren't losing the 'charm' or whatever and now all of sudden he thinks they shouldn't communicate and meet so much?
The girl is being illogical too, if she still insists on talking all night and texting all day... but a little while everyday or every other day sounds logical.
But I honestly think the guy is losing interest.
^ Dude, his "friend" thinks talking to his girlfriend once every 10 days is enough! That's hardly enough.
And the girl thinks that they should "talk lyk for hours every night and .......keep on texting each other all day long" That's overboard.
As I said in my previous post, the guy should not impose guidelines..and the girl should also be practical. They should work on talking regularly for a decent time, rather than yap away at the same rate as they used to initially.
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^I can agree with that..
Me and my fiance dont talk at ALL so there is no problem 
I guess I can understand where the guy is coming from…I think sometimes not knowing in their case less knowin/communcating is KINDA fun in a way…But hey it does not work for everyone.
I think your mate should be reasonable with the guy if he has to get up every morning at 6 for work he cant be talking to her till 5am…I know in early days it doesnt matter but honeymoon period has to end sometimes in their case before the wedding…But guy is just being silly if he thinks he can be ok with not talking to her for 10 days then there is something wrong or maybe he is just testing how long they can go on without communicating??? and who will give up first and call the next person?
My Solution DONT COMMUNICATE AT ALL( Not suitable for EveryOne)
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Rooz ka anna janna kadar khoo daita hy :)
I was in a similar situation 3yrs ago. It ended very badly :(
And yeah TOO much communication does spoil ur relationship believe me
Even if the couple has good understanding, things DO change once you start to communicate this way..............
But I would also say that the guy is wrong in saying that talking once in 10 days is enough
You can talk everyday but there should be a LIMIT yeh nahi k 24hrs lagay raho LOL
Something is fishy here, and YOU need to find out what it is
Because koi piyar kernay wala 1 din b door nahe reh sakta fir 10din to door ki bat hy
Good luck :)
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Less is more.
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haha girls are such an attention freaks :D
The guy wasted his 4 years on her and she is still complaining . He really need to think twice before getting into this marriage thingy .
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^as if gurl did not waste her 4 yrs on him?
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A few things to note:
HE has a JOB and cannot talk all night long...it affects your performance at work as well as your professional image. Always tired and not enough energy.
SHe needs some communication too. Once in 10 days is weird especially if you're already used to being on the phone ALLLLL the time. What they can do is set a time for themselves to talk everyday...talk for about a hour or so and then go to bed.
I also suspect he might be losing interest and caving in due to family pressure.
^as if gurl did not waste her 4 yrs on him?
Yea and after 4 years guy have a job and working on building their future together , and what this woman is doing ??? nagging . If she can't understand such a small thing then how can he trust her for whole life ?
No, there's no charm in marriage. I'd actually recommend that you two communicate with each other before you get married. Communicate with her or you WILL lose her interest. She will get frustrated and stop sharing anything with you. If this is more than infatuation, it will last.
P.S. I am assuming this "friend" of yours doesn't exist. :D
Totally agree.. also once every 10 days sounds a bit weird to me, most couple can't go more than a few days without missing each other and tbh I would have thought if a bf/gf are only speaking 3 times in a whole month they're prob spending that extra time sharing their innermost thoughts with other ppl...
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Once every 10 days? Erm yeah i understand he has a job now. But why cant you both talk 1-2 hours everynight? I dont get that. Once evry 10 days are you sure hes faithful?!
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Depends on your work schedule and responsibilities. Sometimes 1 hr per night is ridiculous and too much. But why not once a week or on weekends? Why not once every 5 days? And texting can be done daily. A friendly hi/hello etc. Otherwise, the dude is not interested if he can't text you something once a day. Seriously.
At least that's how I read it. I think guys in a previous thread of mine all said that if he isn't communicating regularly and frequently then he is not interested.
And i believe that. Not sure if certain guys just don't like to talk much to their gf's but I find that weird.
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too much communication is bad for your relationship??
ok
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^ I think here we are talking about a girl who is attention seeker , and now that guy can't provide that due to his busy schedule . But the girl still insist that I wana talk all night long like past FOUR years .
^ I think here we are talking about a girl who is attention seeker , and now that guy can't provide that due to his busy schedule . But the girl still insist that I wana talk all night long like past FOUR years .
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