Hi ppl!
I’m in a great confusion,pls help me out.
I know this guy for more than a year now.He’s told me everything about him and his family.I’ve also shared things about me and my family with him but,onething which he doesn’t still know about is my mother tongue because I’ve never told him about it,so,he thinks we are urdu speakers.What should I do?Now he’s even spoken with his family members about me,and so within some days his family members would be visiting my parents.Should I tell him about it now?How should I tell him about it?
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Whats wrong with your mothers tounge?
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Nothing's wrong,but i just never told him about it,but i was just thinking that it might frustrate him why didn't i tell him about it before.
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hehe yeah but what is your mother tongue? Are you 2 different cultures? And is that really a deal breaker?
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Mother tongue is used to refer to language that one speaks...from their origins
is it not?I’m not sure.Won’t it create any problems if I tell him now?
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Ahhh just tell him already.
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I still dont get it...........
How could he not know what you speak?
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Yeah I dont get it either...
Let me explain ladies: Girl meets Boy online, speaks about everything - he assumes she is Urdu speaking and likes the sound of it, she lets him assume until... it gets to this.
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But she speaks urdu right? I am sure if its gotten to that they have talked on the phone. Trust me you can tell whether a person can talk in urdu or not.
But she speaks urdu right? I am sure if its gotten to that they have talked on the phone. Trust me you can tell whether a person can talk in urdu or not.
Yeah, I am sure she speaks Urdu, that's why he thinks she's Urdu speaking. Timeless, correct us lady if we are assuming our boats away.
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Timeless.........you NEED to tell him about your mother tongue. If this guy LOVES you....then your mother tongue shouldn't be much of an issue. A married couple needs to be able to communicate. And as long as you both have a common language that you can communicate in (such as English)........then that's what matters most. I know a Pakistani guy who married an Armenian girl and guess what? The Armenian girl is picking up urdu and she's doing pretty well. But what matters most is that they communicate with each other and put their efforts in making the relationship work. I even know a pashto speaking pathaan girl married to an urdu speaking guy and they're still together. You'll be fine, just be honest.
First of all.......why didn't you tell him what your mother tongue is? Did you honestly forget? Or were you afraid that he might not like you after finding out about your mother tongue? Either way, just tell him about it.
If you FORGOT to tell him.......then say, "Hi, there's something important that i need to tell you and you might think I'm weird but urdu is not my mother tongue. During our 1-year relationship, I got so caught up in everything that I can't believe I left out something so simple as my mother tongue. My mother tongue is actually----------. And I'm hoping that this won't affect our relationship. Because we're both compatible and we both communicate well in a common language and I'm hoping that something like this won't change things."
Or if you were afraid to tell him, then say "Hi, there's something important that I have to tell you. During or 1-year relationship, you automatically assumed my mother tongue was urdu and it's not. I don't know exactly why i dind't correct this assumption. I guess its because I liked you and our relationship was going strong and I was afriad that a difference in mother tongue would change things. And as time progressed and we talked about other things and all types of topics.......I got caught up in that flow. And I'm worried about it now because our families are going to be meeting. I didn't tell you before because I was afraid it would make too much of a difference to you. And I'm sorry to tell you about this so late like this. But I'm still hoping that it won't matter as much because we both communicate well in a language common t us. And I would be more than happy to try an learn urdu if you'll teach me."
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^ u make it sound really really important and serious
i didn't think it was that important. i would understand if it was different religious believes or shai or sunni issue but mother tongue...isn't it that just.
just tell him, and tell him since the topic never came up and never thght abt telling him.
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It would be better to tell him before his family comes over to your place. It really shouldn't matter and hopefully you'll both laugh at how much importance you gave it. Also im sure if he had such an issue he would've asked you about your origins... just because someone speaks urdu doesnot make them urdu speaking.
On the other hand if God forbid he is one of those people that make a big issue about origin mattering more then the person hell appreciate you telling him before his family comes over and they get mad at him
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Whats ur mothers tounge if not Urdu???? Is it punjabi??? The curiousity is killing me!!!
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I think it’s perhaps something which is not common
