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I thought that’s the reason why she’s not told him about it yet,no?:aq:
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lol @su's comments
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He is a Urdu speaker,and we're Saraiki speakers.Yes,i can speak Urdo.So should I tell him about it now,and sure it wouldn't cause any problems?
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language can create a problem??
waise i dont think it shud as long as u 2 can communicate with each other, no?
he can speak urdu, u can speak urdu then wats the problem?
if not urdu then u both can speka english i suppose 
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Its been a full year of communication between you two...a small detail like this should not cause problems. Also, dont you think they will figure it out once they come over? Its best to discuss it beforehand so there are no surprises.
Good luck!
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Oh good! my mom’s family is saraiki speakers.. my mom knows saraiki.. i just know the bad words etc:chai:
I am punjabi but when I speak urdu they say i know urdu just like an urdu speaker + the lahori accent:chai:
I do not think it should be a problem, just tell him. As long as you know urdu and can talk to him. Where do you live btw?
or is it more of a family issue that the guy’s family will create especially the mom? they want their son to marry into an urdu speaking famiy?
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^^ wot bdad words u know?
Isn't this the case with every lingo u tend to learn bad words first
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So sure it would be alright if I tell him now?
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oh my god is this really a problem? seriously?
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Yes,that isn't a problem, but iam scared that he may get angry on this fact that why haven't i still told him about it.
haw log kia kahen ge!
Are you doing a poll of how many of us suggest you to tell him that you'r a saraiki speaker?!?! Seriously, you two are mature enough and apparently know each other enough to go ahead and talk the talk of marriage yet.... THIS is scaring you!
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I think if ur so scared to tell him and he will take it the wrong way--neither of you are mature enough to get married. of all the issues. good God
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oh still you haven’t told him about it?
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It's not going to be a problem. You can communicate with him and his family since you know Urdu.
Really - the situation isn't nearly as dramatic or tragic as you think. Just tell him and don't make it a big deal.
Do your parents speak Urdu in addition to Saraiki?
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Timeless,
It really won't be a problem. In fact, it shouldn't be a problem if the guy sincerely likes you. As long as you both have a common language (urdu) that you can communicate with, it's not a big deal at all. If your family knows urdu, then they will be able to communicate with his family. The ONLY that will be a problem for you is if you keep DELAYING telling this guy about your language. Just tell him. You should be able to speak openly and freely with someone whom you would like to spend the rest of your life with.
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Problem or no problem, how the hell would you know unless you tell him!? Tell him and see. Then ask or advice if you need to.
Yes,that isn't a problem, but iam scared that he may get angry on this fact that why haven't i still told him about it.
If such a trivial matter can create problem in this relationship then I am sorry to say that this relationship needs more nurturing and more work.