thing is ive alwayz been confused by my religious beliefs,lately it has increased..
ok firstly ive heard tht a person who knows about the right path and chooses the wrong one is worse in the eyes of Allah then the one who is on the wrong path simply cuz of lack of knowlegde,
now if thts true it means tht im committing a greater sin by not dressin according to islam, i believe tht a muslim girl should cover her head but im not actin on it, tht makes me a hypocrite doesnt it?
ive also often argued with my fellow muslim friends who believe tht islam doesnt tell us to cover our heads..
point is tht appearance wise im same as them lot but beliefs are different, does it mke me better or worse?by knowin wats right n not actin on it?
and this other thing
but thn again wats the point of believin in one thing and not actin upon it, i mean maybe thts not wat i believe? am i a munaafiq?
and this other thing chattin on net with non mehrams i believe its wrong but im still enagaged in it, thn there are other muslims who think its all cool? is it really wat i believe or watelse? whos better in the eyes of Allah me or thm? soooo confused
i know wat i wrote wont mke sense to u but i had to tke it all out these thots are really gettin on my nerves..
From what I know, 'eeman' or faith comprises of belief in the heart, speech, and action. Like you said you do believe in certain things and you do take a stand with regards to those issues in front of your friends. however, I guess, like the most of us, you are sometimes unable to carry out the things which you believe in. I dont think this makes you a hypocrite, it just means that you can improve your faith and once you have stronger faith you can start carrying out those actions, right? I once read a very good book in increasing one's eeman i'll see if i can find it for you. You can ponder over the following verses of the Quran and see if they help:
"Alif Laam Meem. Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: 'we believe' and will not be tested? And We tested those who were before them. And Allaah will certainly make it known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make it known (the falsehood of) those who are liars." (29:1-3)
"Of mankind there are some who say: 'we believe in Allaah' but if they are made to suffer for the sake of Allaah they consider the trial of mankind as Allaah's Punishment." (29:10)
start off with the basics,
Reading the quran increases our fear of Allah and hence we try to do things correctly, you should try increasing your recitation of the Quran.
Try to be absolutely regular with prayers, and increase your nafl prayers if you're very regular with the obligatory prayers. Ask Allah to make you firm on your beliefs, for verily whom He guides none can misguide.
I'd also suggest you try and find out why you believe in the things that you do? So when you have reasons to believe in certain things, there are more chances you'll try to incorporate those beliefs in your actions.
and Allah knows best. May He guide us all towards what pleases Him. ameen.
salam
i wont go in to tough stuff with u
just plain simple stuff
first u say that if u know what is right then u dont follow it it makes u a worrst person than one who doesnt know
well that i corect...example if u take art for 3 years u r obviously more advanced then a person who took it for only 1 year..
and u r gona be better at art then the one who took it for 1 year, now u know more than the one who took art for 1 year and u kow how to do everything better then him but u act too lazy and decide not to anything good then obviously your teacher is gona think u r worst then the one who took it for only one year
agread?
so now same thing goes for Islam....
now u say that makes me a hypocrite..it doesnt make u a hypocrite cause i think deep inside u r feeling sorry..but the peer presure gets u
am i right?
see the beautifulest thing abt Islam is that when u learn the truth and u only feel sorry inside your heart..and u ask forgivness to Allah and dont repeat your sins...then Allah will forgive u and never remind u of any of your past sins...reason is he is not like anyone of our friends that when they do a favor for us they talk abt it all life long
when Allah forgives your sins he says nothing ..he only asks u to pray to him and build your character...then he forgives u again for what u do wrong....he is always fogiving..always
islam tells us to cover our heads but there is a reason behind it ..it gives a woman respect
now take me for example i wear hijab in school and im the only one and there are all whites ..when i first wore it i was really scared ..but only once this one guy said what the hell is she wearing and i turnd around and told him "you got a problom with what i am wearing"
my point is u need to be brave and stand up for your belife..
now in my school no guy even dares to look at me in a bad way ...they slap other gilrs butts ...do other stupid things to them and they cant do nothng abt it ...but they know not o come near me...we are friends but nothing stupid ..i have respect and belive me ...my friends have said "u r lucky they dont come near you" and they are sick of guys being all over them ....
im dearest sister i can imagine how confused u r i must say no one gave u the reasons for anything
meaning no one told u why do this that etc ...etc...u just had to do it ...
no one tought u the real Islam ..Islam is beautiful when u go in its deapths...
may Allah guide u to the right path and i hope u will learn real Islam some how
Plz read the whole thing i know its long but its worth reading....
ammarr Wa’Alaikum’Assalaam
i dont believe in anything merely bcuz my parents believe in it, i think i know the reasoning behind all tht, and i am very much convinced tht our Deen is the best possible way of living, but despite all this i dont offer my prayers, cant remember the last time i recited Quran i guess it was during last ramadan, now how bad can it get…
mashaAllah both my parents and my elder bro pray five times a day, and recite Quran daily,
my abbu every now n then keeps on tellin us why has Allah told us to act in a certain way or do certain things, tht all does make total sense to me, but as u said i think my faith is not strong enough…they tell me to pray dunno how many times a day but sumhow i find an excuse and get away,how shaitaan like is tht..
my siblings often go ooh she doesnt believe in religion, and if ever they see me prayin they’re like OMG wat happened to her, and stuff like this goes on…
but ive decided i’ll start off with trying to pray atleast 3 times a day and see wat happens…
those verses were really beautiful, and i would love to know the name of the book u mentioned…
thankyou for takin the time and replyin, it sure did help clearin up a few confusions in my head:flower1:
AvgAmericanGirl
why isnt it possible to know the difference between right or wrong path?
i think all the religions tell u the difference quite clearly..
trust me i should not alwayz listen to my heart..
anywayz thnx alot girly pearly:flower1:
delight_**
yup i read the whole thing and it was worth readin it:flower1:
what u wrote is no doubt correct, hijaabans are obviously respected more,
but in my case i think i get the respect i look for even without wearin a hijaab, for example at my sixthform i had quite a few girls who wore hijaab but the guyz didnt treat them differently, yes they were treated exactly like other girls were(slappin their butts was a minor thing) treated bcuz of there attitude,
on the other hand in my case even my friends knew they’re limits wen they were around me,so tht proves its not only the hijaab tht protects u its also ur attitude, am i right?
ive decided tht i’ll start wearin hijaab this ramadan(if im still livin) and inshaAllah continue.
and no im not at all scared of wearin hijaab,ive never cared about wat others think…its alwayz wat i think!
ur right islam is beautiful, and my parents taught me everything they should hve,i think ive been given all the right reasons one can, nothin has been forced upon me..
i think now i get wat the real problem is.. as ammarr said my faith is not as strong as a muslims faith should be!
What makes islam distinct from other beliefs is that the islamic belief is the truth,truth and truth...and this can be proved rational eg (just a brief example)
1)Be comprehending our surrondings we come to the conculsion that a Creator exits
2) That the Quran is the word of Allah(swt) and through Muhammed(saw) it was revealed to mankind.
3)From the quran, we know heaven and hell exist. And hence in the quran it states what we have to do in order to be saved from the hellfire.
Point about hijab/praying is that actions which are obligations (faradh) have to be done and if not done result in person being sinful whether they are igronant(jahilayah) or not(unless someones does'nt know it is a faradh but EVERY1 knows namaz is faradh!!)... For expamle a person who becomes a muslims, they staright away havw to perform the obligatory acts to the best of their ability...
...rather than read 3 prays, its best to read 5 prays staright away as we never know when we will die, same applies for hijab, what if next ramadhan never comes?(if it does'nt come,then one will have neglected a faradh)...
....often some people say that they will change tommorow, but what if tommorow never comes???????? (PS:im reminding myself here aswel, b4 any1 starts sayin things)...
1 of the important things is to have fear(of his punshiment) and hope(asking for forgiveness) of Allah(swt).
May Allah(swt) keep all of us the straight path and save us from teh hellfire..ameen
sharara: There are many ways to god and many truths. TO every relgiion their truth is what counts. It also their insecurity to label every other truth a non-truth.
You know whether you are a good person and do the right things. I am of the belief that your closeness with god cannot come with what you wear and what you read and what you eat. It comes from how you treat others and yourself with respect and dignity. It also comes from how you grow as person by acquiring knowledge and wisdom by going through experiences of everyday life with no ill will in your heart towards others. There might be a heaven, there might be a hell, there might be nothing..it doesn;t matter. Your reason for being here is not to worry about how to get to the afterlife, your reason for being here is to enjoy this one by making your and others lives more fulfilling. There is no template or how to manual for day tod ay activites for this unfortunately, if someone tells you different they are misread.
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...rather than read 3 prays, its best to read 5 prays staright away as we never know when we will die, same applies for hijab, what if next ramadhan never comes?(if it does'nt come,then one will have neglected a faradh)...
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well said, i'll try my best..
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....often some people say that they will change tommorow, but what if tommorow never comes???????? (PS:im reminding myself here aswel, b4 any1 starts sayin things)...
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hehe, i sort of know tht tomorrow never comes, thts wat everyone keeps on tellin me..
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1 of the important things is to have fear(of his punshiment) and hope(asking for forgiveness) of Allah(swt).
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i think thts another problem ive got, i sumhow hve started thinkin tht im goin to jannat for sure, i know tht sounds funny but thts exactly wat it is, why do i think tht, maybe cuz i think ive got stronger morals and values(doesnt mke sense does it), but does tht count?
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sharara: There are many ways to god and many truths. TO every relgiion their truth is what counts. It also their insecurity to label every other truth a non-truth.
You know whether you are a good person and do the right things. I am of the belief that your closeness with god cannot come with what you wear and what you read and what you eat. It comes from how you treat others and yourself with respect and dignity. It also comes from how you grow as person by acquiring knowledge and wisdom by going through experiences of everyday life with no ill will in your heart towards others. There might be a heaven, there might be a hell, there might be nothing..it doesn;t matter. Your reason for being here is not to worry about how to get to the afterlife, your reason for being here is to enjoy this one by making your and others lives more fulfilling. There is no template or how to manual for day tod ay activites for this unfortunately, if someone tells you different they are misread.
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what u wrote sounds perfect if i put aside my religion,
it's weird but often i do get thoughts exactly like wat u wrote i.e Allah will be more then happy with me for the person i am, for the purity of my heart... i think these thoughts stop me from prayin and other things which differenciate between a muslim and non-muslim..
theres absolutely nothin wrong with wat u wrote, but i believe tht my way of life should be different from a non-muslim.. and i hope tht my faith grows strong enough, so tht i can adopt a way of life tht differnciates me from a non-muslim!
sharara: if your only motivation to reach out to god is to differentiate yourself from a non-muslim, then there seems to be something amiss. God is supposed to provide unity, not disassociation. the act of praying doesn't make you spiritual. The manner in which you pray doesn;t make you spiritual...the clothes that you wear don;t make you spiritual...these things will undoubtedly help you with the differentiation you seek, but I am not sure if they will help you find closeness to god. But good luck...
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*Originally posted by Matsui: *
sharara: if your only motivation to reach out to god is to differentiate yourself from a non-muslim, then there seems to be something amiss. God is supposed to provide unity, not disassociation. the act of praying doesn't make you spiritual. The manner in which you pray doesn;t make you spiritual...the clothes that you wear don;t make you spiritual...these things will undoubtedly help you with the differentiation you seek, but I am not sure if they will help you find closeness to god. But good luck...
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How can closeness to God come without obeying The God!!!
yeh u r right its your attitude too
but as ammar has said i think it all depends on how strong your faith is
like u know how ppl pay and this and that sometimes jsut to show off..they do it for ppl and Allah so its useless…
its all your niat that counts to Allah u have to be very sinceire and even if u r the worst person on the world only show sincerity to him and he will fogive everything that u ever did…belive me he would have also forgiven faron only if he said the kalma during his life and was sincere..i mention him cause he did say kalma when he was dieing ..but he always belived Allah was the creator(he went and did sajdah in front of Allah for something..wont tell the whole story no need righ?)
anyways sister just do your niat and have a sincere heart and Allah will help u after that..he loves sincerity…
try to do it and he will make it hapen…
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*Originally posted by Matsui: *
sharara: There are many ways to god and many truths. TO every relgiion their truth is what counts. It also their insecurity to label every other truth a non-truth.
You know whether you are a good person and do the right things. I am of the belief that your closeness with god cannot come with what you wear and what you read and what you eat. It comes from how you treat others and yourself with respect and dignity. It also comes from how you grow as person by acquiring knowledge and wisdom by going through experiences of everyday life with no ill will in your heart towards others. There might be a heaven, there might be a hell, there might be nothing..it doesn;t matter. Your reason for being here is not to worry about how to get to the afterlife, your reason for being here is to enjoy this one by making your and others lives more fulfilling. There is no template or how to manual for day tod ay activites for this unfortunately, if someone tells you different they are misread.
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Matsui,
Very open though and very true IMOH.
I don't think God questions so much ones religious trappings as much as he looks at ones day to day behaviors and the way one treats other people.
One can recite their prayers on time every day without fail and still be unkind and unloving to others.
One can forget to recite their prayers on time every day and be warm, caring and loving to others.
How can closeness to God come without obeying The God!!!
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The PERFECT answer to matsui & americangalz comments!
In order for someone to be a good person, they have to obey the commands of Creator (Allah(swt)) or otherwise they may think that they are a good person in this life but in reality they are'nt and in the next life they will realise.
Allah(swt) says that some people will deny the the truth and when they will die they will only then perceive what they had done wrong and they will ask to be returned to earth to be given another chance but Allah wont give them another chance and He(swt) says.. did We not give you clear signals regarding the truth?
cant remeber the reference of the ayah so if someone can quote it please do, and if i said anything wrong,please correct me*
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**clubber lang*
Wa'Alaikum'Assalaam
well said, i'll try my best..
hehe, i sort of know tht tomorrow never comes, thts wat everyone keeps on tellin me..
i think thts another problem ive got, i sumhow hve started thinkin tht im goin to jannat for sure, i know tht sounds funny but thts exactly wat it is, why do i think tht, maybe cuz i think ive got stronger morals and values(doesnt mke sense does it), but does tht count?
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Yeah you right sometimes we think we have done enough to be granted Jannah, but we must take lessons from the Prophets and sahabi's who were granted jannah but yet they still feared the wrath of Allah(swt). If we read the stories of the sahabah one can learn very good examples as how to have a balance of the fear and trust of Allah(swt)
The PERFECT answer to matsui & americangalz comments!
In order for someone to be a good person, they have to obey the commands of Creator (Allah(swt)) or otherwise they may think that they are a good person in this life but in reality they are'nt and in the next life they will realise.
Allah(swt) says that some people will deny the the truth and when they will die they will only then perceive what they had done wrong and they will ask to be returned to earth to be given another chance but Allah wont give them another chance and He(swt) says.. did We not give you clear signals regarding the truth?
cant remeber the reference of the ayah so if someone can quote it please do, and if i said anything wrong,please correct me*
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Obey the 10 commandments of God?
Is that what you mean Clubber-lang?
Do you write this because I was comparing a soul who usually does not obey God's wishes, yet pray 5 times a day without fail, to a soul who does not pray 5 times a day but follows God's commands.
I am not incinuating that one should not pray...only stating that I believe that God can see inside ones heart. And if ones heart is black..yet they follow religiously perscribed rituals....
I think God knows the difference between the faithful and the hypocrites.
