I have known this lady for sometime. I was planning to ask her out during a dinner we had earlier in the week.
While we were talking she would compare me to other guys and I held off asking her.
The comparisons would be that this guy is taller than you, etc. And she would show me a photo of her friends bf.
I wonder if she knew I was going to ask her and she was trying to tell me indirectly not to ask her?
Should I go ahead and ask her out anyway?
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You asking her out for the first time should be based on your feelings for hers, and not her feelings for you. Go ahead buddy.
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yaar, rishta bhej do directly. uskii marzii qubool kare yaa na kare...beech ke jhamele phaiNkeN nikaal ke. :)
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Go for it mate!
The fact that she compares you means she thinks of you ;)
You're in her head. Make yourself comfortable.
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Go for it mate!
The fact that she compares you means she thinks of you ;)
You're in her head. Make yourself comfortable.
I thought it meant that she doesnt think im tall enough.
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Is that enough to stop you from trying?
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Is that enough to stop you from trying?
No not really.
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I thought it meant that she doesnt think im tall enough.
Not where inches count brah.
Just ask her out, if she says no, you move on the next girl. Lather, rinse and repeat.
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Get in there, son! Keep us in the loop.
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Dude..if i were you...i would have asked her out. Who cares if she said no..at least you tried. There is also..another thing how you say it bro! Good luck...
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I think it's better to ask and know, than to sit and guess.
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I have known this lady for sometime. I was planning to ask her out during a dinner we had earlier in the week.
While we were talking she would compare me to other guys and I held off asking her.
The comparisons would be that this guy is taller than you, etc. And she would show me a photo of her friends bf.
I wonder if she knew I was going to ask her and she was trying to tell me indirectly not to ask her?
Should I go ahead and ask her out anyway?
if she's talking about other men in front of you, she's too young for you bro.
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She is older than me.
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How should I ask her, xtron?
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If ur serious about her then I would also suggest that u talk to her but go the rishta route. I think if the girl is mature enough (although comparing her friends bfs to u in front of u, in fact with u is sort of immature) and likes things about u then she might just say yes. I've seen that work better than the trying to have a relationship route (depending on how old u guys r). Ofcourse if ur still at the stage where u r not sure u actually want to marry her then maybe that's not for u. Btw I have no idea how old u r or how old she is so this whole thing might not even apply to u guys.
But either way best way to get her attention is to just say what u feel once and then not re-explore the topic till uv given her a few days. Like I really like u and I would like to get to know u better, ofcourse I know that u might not feel the same or may never have thought about me like that but u can just take it in, think about it and let me know. If ur not interested then that's fine too and there will be no hard feelings. And then u can talk to her again in like 4-5 days if she doesn't get back to u. I'm assuming ur already friends with her but like her more than just a friend, that's why it's better to throw in the line about no hard feelings. This way there's a way to come back from awkward.
If u want to marry her then the lines would be different, more advice after further info :)
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if she's talking about other men in front of you, she's too young for you bro.
She is older than me.
young as in immature
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It's possible that she's trying to make you jealous by blatantly comparing you to other guys. I'm not sure what purpose that would serve, but some women do have a rather odd and immature thought process, so it's a possibility.
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So many responses just to figure out what she really might be thinking. This should be enough to realize how hard it is to understand a woman. And you still want to marry her ...
:)
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I doubt she's playing mind games to make you jealous, as some are suggesting here. I dont think if a woman has hots for a guy she would put him down by making unfavorable comparisons. Infact if a woman fancies a guy even his flaws become invisible to her and she'll be too afraid to upset him.
Im not saying its black and white as in a woman can only either be into you or not at all. Its possible that you're a low priority potential bf and she wants to see how many acrobatics you can perform for her or something. Its possible she might date you but feel she's settling and therefore have an upper hand. Gotta figure if you want that.
Today she is telling you you're shorter than some other guys. What if a while into the relationship she tells you the guys she had before you were better endowed than you. Where do you go from there?
I'm not saying you shouldn't ask her out. By all means do so. But if this leads to dating, dont invest in her emotionally or get attached. Dont give your feelings to her. Just have fun, keep your other options open and look after your interests selfishly.
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But if this leads to dating, dont invest in her emotionally or get attached. Dont give your feelings to her. Just have fun, keep your other options open and look after your interests selfishly.
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