confused!!!

[EDAL]

Re: confused!!!

@goodname

@ Edal and Diwana,

There is a stereotype galore going on here. First, how kids turn out depend to a large extent on your socio-economic status and not whether you were raised by a single mom. Obama was pretty much raised by a single mother as well. He went to Harvard and Columbia, and is today the President of the United States. What makes you conclude that Ms. Belledone’s relative, who has been shipped to a village in Mandi Bahauddin, could not have similar opportunities in life and one day possibly even become the German Chancellor if she was allowed to be raised by her mother in Germany?

I also find it incredible how quick we are to pass judgments about the single mothers’ character and their capability to raise their own kids. Where were those concerns when those guys in question happily married those women? Or made them pregnant? Because, let’s face it, that cannot happen “accidentally;” the likely reason one would choose to have a child with someone he married only for a permanent visa is to bolster the case for getting that visa and making the sham marriage look convincing.

Also, as is likely, only relatively uneducated, young and vulnerable women might have failed to see through the guys’ plans and consented to marrying them, what was stopping those guys, if they were so concerned about their children’s future, from manning up, staying near their kids, and paying child support even if they had to divorce their ‘wives’ after getting the citizenship they wanted? No law in the world can stop a man from doing that.

There are strong statistics and studies which prove that the optimal environment for a child is a healthy home with a mother and father, this is also what is recommended as per Islam. There was also studies which showed that people who commit crimes are more often raised in single homes vs people who do not commit crimes.

I learned this in an optional sociology course at University, broken homes = broken kids = broken adults.

In terms of Obama I think you fail to consider the strong role his White Irish Grandparents played in his upbringing, they pretty much raised him, he mentions them over and over in his book “The Audacity of hope”. He especially mentions the important role his Grandfather played in his life.