confused!!!

[Muzna]

Re: confused!!!

@diwana

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1- Nowhere I attempted to reduce the importance of a mother. There are studies which show motherless children CAN also have disturbed lives and problems.

But, the discussion is about a father who wanted his daughter to be raised by him and not a by her mother for reasons unknown to all of us.

since you are so efficient at producing links to studies…would you be able to pull up some numbers on how many female children were brought up by single fathers and turned out okay or not? thanks…I’m curious to compare the numbers.

@diwana

2- If a single parent for girls is to be chosen, then natural father is the best for them. Not a single mother.

Why? Because a man has more likely chance of getting married than a a single mother. Girls raised by single mothers have been shown to have a lot of problems.

I clearly mentioned with proof by quoting a book written by western woman in modern day saying things based on many studies.

I even posted link to pdf. file on a thesis on the subject.

Far be it from me to deny or even question “a study”…but is this the same study that you mention below that was conducted on criminals?

@diwana

3- Shak mentioned something about the sample size. OK. That is considered in statistics to draw a VALID conclusion.

But, the question of sample size is not strong here since in these studies to my understanding by reading them, the sample was already chosen to be the ‘bad’ kids/adults.

These studies were conducted on criminals, incarcerated and criminals. Then the root cause of of their bad behavior was searched. One of the factor they found common was being raised by SINGLE MOTHERS.

It is like, if a disease is found to be affecting a certain set of population, in order to find the possible causes, one goes and asks questions to afflicted people and then calculates how many people had a ‘common denominator’.

Granted…one finds a common denominator…but what if there are other common denominators? Do we isolate the one that is relevant to support our position or do we further investigate?

I’m not saying that the 100 people that ate at the same restaurant didn’t get sick from something they ate there…but I have to also consider how many other people ate there and did not get sick. I will not condemn the entire restaurant. I will say that there could be another reason…perhaps these 100 folks are allergic to nuts or shellfish and the entrees they ate were contaminated…perhaps these 100 were people that ate at a party which was catered by the restaurant and an entire item was spoiled…whatever…

Point is that you cannot simply draw conclusions based on such studies. You need to consolidate a number of such studies.
You are quoting a study that shows one side of the coin. Perhaps a study that shows how many female children grew up to be well-educated, professional adults with a well-rounded personality while in the care of a single mother would help us see that your position is correct. If what you are suggesting holds water then the number of successful women would be far lower than the number of criminals…no?

@diwana

Besides if you are still hell bent on ‘sample’ size then I think I have stronger case here.

Read ALL the posts where someone came and said " I was raised by a single mother" OR “I am a single mother” Nothing wrong happened to me OR nothing wrong happened to my children.

Now count all those numbers and then go back and read the studies.

Do you really think few posters can deny what these studies have suggested?

Seriously? You want to use a GS thread as a study and the number of posters here as a decent sample size?
Really is that what you are suggesting?