Re: confused!!!!!!
If he hates your outdoor activities, then get around it another way.
Invite some friends over once a week for a girls' party or get together. You can also do that with family and sisters.
Take a class online and get busy with homework and activities.
Participate in some sort of a program at your local mosque...he cant object to that.
And put your foot down...you sound like you're in a cage. Dont fight with him, ease him into understanding you've got to get out of the house. Go out once a month to start with and explain that you have to go because you promised your friends/family you would do this and its really important to so-and-so. Cant he understand just this once? Dont tell him it will be once a month but make sure you do it again the following month.
He has to learn that the kids are not only your problem, they are his too. He will start to learn to be home with them once in a while. Then, you can introduce other things into your lives like family movie nights, game nights with other families, double dates with other couples, etc.
Understand that its a slow process and you cant expect change overnight so be patient. But DEFINITELY get your foot out of the door and start to leave the kids with him sometimes. He may hate it but he isnt behaving like a partner here.
Please dont be ready and waiting when he comes home. Take care of your responsibilities but make sure you have other things waiting for you when you're done.
I feel like you've lost your value in this marriage.