confused

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Re: confused

While its a tough situation for your brother and yes he does have a right to choose who he marries but think of the poor girl who has been engaged to him for 6 years waiting to get married.

What happens to her once the engagment is broken, emotionally.

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Re: confused

I'm sorry Chamelie420 about your situation, and I'm sorry to have to say this, but your mother is a selfish person, asking her children to ruin their lives for her happiness, it's just not right.

GS Kundali hehehehehe
GS Kundali hehehehehe
GS Kundali hehehehehe
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Re: confused

^ Seriously. And what kind of sick person gets happiness from raising miserable children?

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Re: confused

I know...but she is so good to create a situation out of this..crying, and making us all feel bad.

I do feel sorry for the girl as well but I know my brother and she would be better off to marry somebody else then not being happy if married to my brother. He isnt mature and needs time to develop himself..marriage is just not the right thing for him right now...

I called my mum to tell her all this. seems like she didnt like to hear it...

Please pray

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Re: confused

I agree with some of the folks here.

YOU are part of the problem, Chameli. You have some choices.

A. You could tell this cousin of yours what the ground reality is, so that SHE has the ability to make her decisions on her end. She doesn't have a clue that this kid doesn't want to marry her, does she?

B. You keep talking to your mother and she gives you the rohna dohna attitude and you CHOOSE to fall for it. Put your foot down and choose a side. Either you're going to defend your brother's right or not. And you have to make that clear to everyone.

C. You are coming here to ask us what to do? This is your brother's problem. He's clearly said no, and if he sticks to his guns, no marriage will take place.

You need to make your decisions and square with it. I'm also going to say somethign that a friend recently told me and its tough to hear especially when its about your mother, but: Your mother made her choices. She had the ability to prevent all this, and she didn't. YOU have to bear with this and accept that she made these decisions. At most you can only be a support for her now, that's all. You are not responsible for undoing her messed up relationship with her siblings.

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Re: confused

It all comes down either you and your brother taking a very firm stand. I know what its like to have a mother like that. While I love her to death sometimes I feel as if she has her interests at heart before mine...just be strong and do what your heart desires. Life is too short and we live only once, so please make the best of it.

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Re: confused

I spoke to my mum about it on phone. I told her not to force my brother but she kept on talking about how much pressure she had from my uncle. I told her not to listen to his pressuring stuff and that it must be stopped that their relatives just keep getting what they want from my parents. I kep on and on with her on the phone for some time while she was quiet on the other end. It seemed like she didnt like what I said.

When I called the next time she spoke well with my hubby but didnt really bother speaking to me. She didnt even ask me how I was doing....
She behaves like that when she wants her will. She has done that to me when she blackmailed me emotionally to get married to my cousin but back then I was naive and much younger. Now I see through all the game and I dont want to be part of it.