Re: confused by pak man
Anyone disagreeing with me will be banned :ASA:
Ok...t
I am so committed to this man that I would convert to make things right.....pls help!
Thanks everyone...tanya
yeh cheez
Re: confused by pak man
*Why so seriousssah? *Just play along. :D
On a serious note, like someone here said he must be worried about a lot of resistance from the family. And perhaps you are not worth fighting for? If I was you, I would ask the guy directly and get things sorted out.
Anyone else agree with this?
I think you'd like us to agree with Nami. I don't blame you..considering you really like this guy. Talk to him then...tell him he's being wishy-washy. If he persists in the same manner....move on.
catwomen....
let me ask u, how long has the guy been in the UK? is he permanent resident in the UK or here on a limited visa?
these things make a big difference. i dont wana offend anyone when i say this but from my experience ppl who have been bought up in pakistan have a different mindset. Its all about their own benefit. and trust me they make u believe that they are loyal and trustworthy.
test him.... buy a phone card before u meet him next and tell him lets call ur parents now so i can speak to them. just watch carefully for his reaction and for his excuses. if he doesnt let u call, or doesnt 'remember the number' then say next time. then next time do it again.
at the end of the day if he wants u to meet them then surely its okay to call them isnt it.
my opinion..... he's playing u. dont get stuck. he may 'love' u. but these guys from pakistan fall in love very easily. when someone gives um bit of attention they 'fall' in love.
catwomen....
let me ask u, how long has the guy been in the UK? is he permanent resident in the UK or here on a limited visa?
these things make a big difference. i dont wana offend anyone when i say this but *from my experience ppl who have been bought up in pakistan have a different mindset. Its all about their own benefit. and trust me they make u believe that they are loyal and trustworthy. *
test him.... buy a phone card before u meet him next and tell him lets call ur parents now so i can speak to them. just watch carefully for his reaction and for his excuses. if he doesnt let u call, or doesnt 'remember the number' then say next time. then next time do it again.
at the end of the day if he wants u to meet them then surely its okay to call them isnt it.
my opinion..... he's playing u. dont get stuck. he may 'love' u. but these guys from pakistan fall in love very easily. when someone gives um bit of attention they 'fall' in love.
Disagree with your assesment in bold sentences completely. Your experience does not mean you could generalize people who were brought up in Pakistan.
If he was for his benefit, somehow he would be marrying her for the visa, or showing her all lovey dovey gestures....having sex with her , living with her, asking her to do her laundry and then kick her out when ever he would find another chick to play with!
Why there is even a need to test him anyway. He does not want to marry her. She is the one being pushy and trying to bring his old spark back!
He is not desperate, she is.
I would like to know how old are you two!!!
Spanish girl....u cant say I'm being pushy...u dont even know me love!!!!!!!!!!! I came on here for advise...nothing more....being pushy is making someone do something they don't really want to do!I know the signs for being used 4 a visa...I know a lot of foreign people who pay girls for visas ...but spanish girl...I agree with u that wew should not stereotype all pakistani men...everyone is different at the end of the day.....all I am saying is that people should say what they mean
Spanish girl....u cant say I'm being pushy...u dont even knowme love!!!!!!!!!!! I came on here for advise*...nothing more....being pushy is making someone do something they don't really want to do!I know the signs for being used 4 a visa...I know a lot of foreign people who pay girls for visas ...but spanish girl...I agree with u that wew should not stereotype all pakistani men...everyone is different at the end of the day*.....all I am saying is that people should say what they mean
This seems to be the first positive post from OP. OP is backing off now after trying to make this Pakistani nice guy look bad and evil. Let us see how this story twists and turns.
Re: confused by pak man
Nami stop giving her false hope.
diwana, totally agreeing with you there.
OP, stop being so clingy and kick him to the curb. If he comes back kick him again. And again. And again. If he keeps coming back there might be smething there, if not oh well, at least you found out now.
clingy? your having a LAUGH arn't u!!.....pls quote where I have been CLINGY? u mad people who dont know me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All I have come on here to say is...there connection....he says things ...and I dont know where I stand....thought this was cultural...hence my reason for asking other people in similar positions to him!!!!!!!!
Cannot beleive you people on here are so quick to judge people....I HAVE NOT SAID..." I stand outside his house at all hours" "I Force him into things" "I pressure him into things" " I stalk him" " I have pics all over my bedroom wall" NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! THAT IS CLINGY!!!!!!!! THAT IS DESPERATE!!!!!!!!!! These things I DO NOT AND WILL NEVER DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hope u all understand and learn to stop judging other people! Thanks
I don't care now....only some people on this board gave good answers...so CM if you wanna shut this pls do!! I have had enough of the uneducated people who feel the need to judge others before actually basing their opinions on FACTS!
Thanks
Re: confused by pak man
^ oh come on, now you are just being clingy and desperate.
Re: confused by pak man
[note]Thanks everyone for your contributions to this thread . Thread closed as per request by OP . [/note]