"can't express feelings well" - I am sorry but this one gets my blood boiling! Didn't you say that he used to tell you "I love you" all the time? Where was his inability to express feelings then? How hard it is to just say whatever you are feeling?:S
Maybe if you let him know that you just need to know where he stands and you are not going to be hurt by what he says (sort of give him reassurance that he won't hurt you by speaking his mind), he might let you know what's on his mind.
Or I guess if his dad is coming and he wants you to meet him, then wait for that. You are right, maybe he fears how his parents might feel about him marrying outside his culture.
LOL so right!!! all I got last time was...."we can't take this further....I need to get my career sorted and.....u wanna get married do u?"He was sayin it in a stressy way though....
I think he is just double minded because you are from a different culture and religion . For men getting married is usually a HUGE decision . If he was born in Pakistan , then most probably he is very shy / reserve guy too .
I think he is just double minded because you are from a different culture and religion . For men getting married is usually a HUGE decision . If he was born in Pakistan , then most probably he is very shy / reserve guy too .
he's gone distant just lately...not calling/texting as much...so I take from that maybe he is trying to work himself out! lol I dont feel as though our culture a issue....we have spoke before...for example....if a women does not work...we both share same view that she should do everything at home...make sure dinner on table etc etc...religion no issue...I have done a lot of research just lately...and would convert...and yes he was bor n in pakistan
^maybe giving him some time and space would be an appropriate thing to do (as hard as it can be). Just make sure you let him know you are doing this so he can sort things out so he doesn't feel that you are distancing.
yeah he has distanced himself....although saw him over the weekend...mind games again....touching face..."my baby" we used to text all the time...at least daily...now be lucky to get one text a week!!....thats what I thought at first...but its been like this for 3 weeks now...surely this is a long time to work himself out lol
I think he is just double minded because you are from a different culture and religion . For men getting married is usually a HUGE decision . If he was born in Pakistan , then most probably he is very shy / reserve guy too .
Yup.
You're being taken for a ride...and he may not be doing it intentionally either. He may be stalling because he has no idea how to talk to you about this.
Its best to withdraw a little bit yourself and think if this kind of uncertainty is what you want in your future. Do you? I wouldnt.
I'd drop the man like a hot potato and let him do the wondering.
if you interested in him, pay visit to his parents in Pakistan, wear shalwar Kameez (first impression is the last impression, especially wear duppata/scarf on your head :D) show that you really like them, respect them, get them gifts, cook them food…inshaALLAH results will be POSITIVE.
cuz if his parents agree to get him marry to you then trust me, parents barely care what rest of the family saying…relatives are always upset anyways, especially if the guy is living abroad and earning 6 figures
usually parents are happy if the girls is gori and she is trying to adjust in their family. Its an honourable thing, especially for the people living in Pakistani rural areas.
so when you say gori, are you a brit or a non brit white person. I hate to say it but your command of english language is casting some doubt on this story.
assuming all is as stated, the dude is just messing about, kick his butt to the curb, move on.
All I have read is that he was one time falling for her and not now.
He has said many times or shown disinterest in her (reading all OP posts here) then why she wants to hang around him.
And she laughed when someone said someone despise him already. And she wants to marry him? Is that how one react to someone being despised and still wants to get married to him? (Read her posts again)
And saying that she is being played with or whatever, is not justified either. He is not being wishy washy. He is telling her he does not want take this further.
They do not 'date' and are friends as I read it he is not having sex with her to play with her or takig free ride. She is the chipkoo here I think. Sorry OP if you are who you say you are.
OP needs to back off and let him sort it out without pressure. He may come back he may not.
He might be feeling bad for her showing such an intense interest.
More importantly in all these discussion we do not even know what level of understanding they have or had in the past. What has been discussed if marriagee happens. What she feels about his background and what he feels about her.
He might be feeling bad for her showing such an intense interest.
You got to be kidding me!
Feeling bad? oh yah? He should man up and speak the truth so the girl can move on. If he is gona be a wuss and assume that the woman, who he had been expressing his love to, is gona back out on her own, then he doesn't deserve to be with any woman. He needs to grow up first and then get himself a woman.
You see, the thing is you're the yellow fella; and you gotta gobble up the dots as soon as possible, and be careful of the ghost looking thingies; but then you can eat the cherry stuffs and give you strength.. ohhh you said Pa*K* Man
I knew someone would use that stupid comparison. hehe
Also, yes you're getting played, leave before you get hurt.
reallly 
… cuz shy/reserved guys tell their female “friend” I love you readily??? … things that make you go hmmmmm
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