confused by pak man

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Ok…this is my 1st time here and I am very confused…so if ne 1 can help…pls offer your advise…

I am a gori living in the UK currently close friends with a pak man as I understand that pakistanis cannot have girlfriends and date…which I respect…I am just having problems understanding him…here r the facts:

who says that Pakistanis can not have girlfriends or date , girl if you just come over to Karachi …during lunch time you’ll see all the restaurants here filled with dates .Who so ever has told you this is fooling you !

• Been good close friends for about a year now…we have a special connection which we have both never felt before
• He used to say I love you…but has stopped recently (think he trying to hold back his feelings not to get hurt) or I understand that in islam, when someone realises they love someone they have to make it right in allah and marry quickly…is this right?

why didn’t he think of islam before saying I LOVE YOU to you. Again I think he is playing with your feelings. Knowing that you don’t know much about Pakistani culture or Religion Islam he fabricates any excuse in the world to back up his wrong doings. He is just taking advantage of your lack of knowledge.

• He keeps making plans for future…he wants me to meet his father…go to pak with him…children…he wants to meet my mum etc et

Is he still living in 1900 century ! Don’t you guys have phone etc. If he really wants himself to introduce you to your family or introduce himself to yours then he can make the 1st move by having a decent telephonic conversation. But I don’t see any good intentions on his part thats why the plans are not materialising.

**** This connection is so strong that I need help as every time I ask him about his feeling…he changes the subject or says it cant happen…is it because I am not pakistani? I am so committed to this man that I would convert to make things right…pls help!***

The problem is not with you being a Pakistan or him being one. The problem is with him being a JERK. He is playing with you and he is not sincere with you thats why he change the subject.

Thanks everyone…tanya

I know someone very well who was REALLY IN LOVE with a gori and he went on to marry her and has kids with her now. He did it without even informing his family , I don’t say it was a right thing to do it was definitely wrong but what I am trying to explain you is that when there is a will there is a way. If he was determined and sure of marrying you he would have taken some steps by now.

Leave him & move on. The more time you will spend on him the more you will get hurt. Tell him that you have waited enough and now you can not wait anymore. You are not going to sit around all your life waiting for him. He got plenty of time now no more. Close all contacts with him and look at other opportunities in life.

and one more thing he is not at all CONFUSED. He knows very well what he is doing and what results that will yield. He is just successfully confusing you !