Conflicted: Housewife or Working Woman

Lifestyle Relationships
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You might want to be a housewife now but things will change. Your kids will grow up. Go to school. What are you gonna do sitting home all day?
Sadzz replies are the best :hugz:

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What I like so much about all these responses is, nobody stressing on the importance of taking the husband on board.

Its like, you go girrrrl!!! Its all upto you… your call!!!

And if/when shiiiit hits the fan… these very ‘advisors’ will tell her to leave the husband and move on and what a douche he is…

The beauty of life1 sisterhood :khumar:

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I was going to say exactly what Pwner is saying. You women always want to be included by your husband in decisions he will make. But when the situation is reversed you all but ignore him.

You are asking random women for their advice but you haven't even thought or indicated what the man who you will spend the rest of your life with thinks.

And then all you women get your panties in a twist over men not including you.

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She is getting tips on how to ''train him proper''.....sit,stand commands shall follow soon.

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Real men wouldn't feel so threatened by women encouraging one another.

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Smart women would see the hypocrisy regarding the matter. Not a single woman has any point indicated her husband should be included in the discussions. Its like he doesn't even exist.

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Zafra, no-one has said ignore him.. A lot of us come from families where are own mothers worked as well as us working now ourselves.. Those of us with experience in these things know it tends not to be a big deal..

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LOL. Real Men :rotfl:

So women are the authority on defining what ‘real man’ is…

not a big deal from whose perspective? Yea right,your own.

BTW..i want to see the ‘training manual’

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I am sorry I thought I was clear. You all ignored him by not even considering him a factor in this.

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^I assumed it was a given that the husband would be consulted..

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Not a big deal!

Thats news to me.

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The OP said her husband is fine with her working, as long as it doesn't get in the way of the family. I don't understand why that needs to be questioned further. She seems conflicted about what she herself wants, and I think most of the advice is focused on helping her figure it out.

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Reread the paragraph in the first post from the view point of a "newly arranged marriage".

Okay with working but family is a priority. Working is fine but we should spend time with each other. Maybe its the way the OP has worded but there is more to it then that.

Edit: The importance of the entire discussion is focused on how she feels and what she thinks. Considering you lot are married, you should realize what she feels or what she thinks should be discussed with the husband at all points.

S02 a simple question were you in the same position would you just accept one discussion with your husband on the matter a done deal or would you highlight all your concerns and keeping an open dialogue on the matter and bring it up a few times?

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Honestly, I think what she's struggling with is giving up independence that will happen regardless of whether she is working or not, once she's married, as she will need to take another person into consideration for each decision she makes. But that's not what she is explicitly asking about.

I think every person should be capable of earning a living as we do not know what the future will hold. She and her husband will need to figure out what works for both of them, but if needed, she should be able to support herself and him.

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Lets discuss what it means ''family is a priority''

What he might be thinking; kids get full attention and availablity of their mum. She is involved to greater degree.

What guppans be thinking ; family is a priority, thats why mum is working full time, thats why she puts kids in daycare, thats why she makes her own money, which makes her happy, which is good for the family.

So, there might be a difference in the meaning of this term. For all these marriage counselors here to imply that just the latter is only interpretation, is wats being pointed out.

But what do i know, i am not a 'real man' a title duly awarded by some 'real woman'.

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I've heard my own dad say this but he's 100% fine with my mum working (even encouraged her)..

I don't think it's that unusual a phrase or there's anything more to the wording..

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Please pwner. Real men are those men who constantly agree with their wives and never wish to discuss anything with them. Kinda like a dog. When you need them they are around otherwise you put them in the dog house.

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Neither you nor I know what he is thinking. That she and he will need to work out.

Also, I did not mean to hurt your feelings or doubt your masculinity. Just stating that there is no reason to feel threatened simply because a woman may feel empowered. :flower: