Confessing to MIL? !

mall · March 28, 2010, 12:59pm

Ok so here i Go!
I got engaged to my hubby 5 yrs back..it was totally arranged one. Never met him in person. He was not in Pakistan..Anyways after 1 yr of engagement it broke to us all tht my bro and his sister r deeply in love and having an affair…I was Sooooooo against it…I never wanted tht " Watta Satta"…(If U knw wht it means).
My father stood with me infact my whole family was against it.I also told my hubby in hidden words tht i did not want this to happen but he was absolutely fine with tht.

Anyways after 1 yr of all the larai at home my father finally gave up as he is my only bro…And they asked my MIL for her daughter..Matlub my SIL was going to be my Bhabi too.

Then I got married 2 and half yrs ago..things were fine between our families excpet the fact tht My SIL is too much of “Gher ki Ladlee” and bigri howi…She is very outspoken and never thinks before talking. After My baby was born My bro one day called me and told me he was very upset because My SIL was having another affair wih some guy. I was Absolutely Shocked. I told Him to do Saber as Now my fateher and mother cannot give up the rishta thing. U have to compromise now. This topic was brought up btw My Mother and my MIL too and they Both somehow resolved the matter. My MIL wanted there marriage to take place as soon as possible as she knew abt tht affair thing.

Anyways I went back Pak Alone with My son when he was 6 months as no one had seen him and i was desperate to meet my parents as well.
The whole thing started there. The day i Reached Inlwas i had i fight with my Sil over some silly matter. It was nothing Big. **My mother was also there and she told clearly to my mother tht am not interested in ur son anymore. **and am not fit in ur family and U find ur son another girl. My MIL who was also sitting there did not even say her to Shut up. My bro was listening to all this and he got soooo angry and my parents went back next day leaving me in InLwas as it was my hubby’s idea to stay in inlwas for 10-15 days and then go to my home.

**Now My Mil wanted me to step ahead and ask my Family ke Date dein Shaadi Ki.
But My bro told me Tht he did not wanted to marry her anymore. **So I asked my Mil tht Plz do not invlove me..Let them both handle this and there is nothing i can Do. This was the poitn when everything turned against me. She called my hubby and told him everthing. From A-Z. And then called my father and broke off the engagement. But inside she still wanted the marrige to take place. She just wanted to keep Upper hand. Ok the day she broke off eng my Hubby called me and said very bad things to me. He was soooooo angry on me saying tht “there is noting i can do”. We fought too much and when he kept the phone i was sure this marriage wont be there anymore.. i called my father and told him evrything. He got so upset and went to “Bare” of family. They all were so mad at my Mil and hubby.

My hubby knowing tht i was mad at him he came tp pak the next day..And said he was sorry.. I was mad but I forgave him. But my family did not. My father came with some elders of the family and they talked to both my Mil and hubby tht they want assurance this wont happen again. And they also declared the other rishta Finished.
Now more than 1 yr is gone and stiill things r not at all ok btw me and my Hubby.
I admit tht telling to my father was my mistake. I should have kept the things btw me and my hubby and i have apologized abt this Zillion times but he is hurt.
Ans so is my Mil. I talk t her on phone but nothing is same as before. I do not expect it to be the same but atleast i want to make things better.
She thinks tht i should have taken her side and should have helped her and my hubby is angry keh Tum nain halaat khrab kiye. And bla bla like tht.

Uffff my life histroy. Now am thinking keh if i do not go and talk to her things will not settle btw me and my hubby too because he is so much into his family.

honestly v v confusing story or maybe its just the way u narrated it to us. pls read the highlighted points. i still dun understand y it was such a big deal if u din wanna b involved. well max u cud have done was, and i understand, try to make both parties calm as u belonged to both. in that case mayb u ARE wrong. but i dun understand why ur MIL and Hubs were angry u told ur dad.. and why did ur dad fight with MIL? sorry had a bit of a hard time understandin ur story.