Re: Compromises..
So which of the following would you find acceptable and be willing to compromise on for a rishta:
Not being allowed to work after marriage..
**I would want it to be my choice. Because I do want to be a housewife and also that my husband can afford all the expenses without the need of me working. But if I want to for a little while, like before having children and maybe when they are older it should be my decision. My mum was a housewife and it was the best thing having your mum with you at all times, so I wouldn’t want my kids to not have that. Also my parents have paid and are still paying a lot of money for my education and I don’t want it to go to waste and I have no brothers so my dad will need someone to handle the business with him. The only reason I want to be working is for fun and enjoyment purposes not for taking care of expense. **
Being told you must live in your inlaws house permanently (and there are other siblings living there as well, he’s not an only son)..
No to you wearing western clothes no matter how modest they might be..NO
Being expected to give up your education after marriage as there’s ‘no point’..
Being told that if you live with inlaws you’ll be expected to more or less ‘take over’ the bulk of the housework, cooking etc from his mum..
Yes, but there should be some help from family members. ** Then I want maids as well!!**
Being told that if you live with inlaws you’ll be expected to ask his parents’ permission if you want to visit your family..
No, unless I am going there 24/7. I will tell in a polite way and if I do all my required jobs then I haven’t done anything wrong. Maybe in the beginning I might ask or depending on what type of family it is. But I won’t do it rudely, maybe might say “Ami mein jaon?” You should at least tell them as they should know where family members are at times.