Re: Compromises..
The choice should definitely be there. I want to be there for my children when they are young and growing rather than left them to be with baby sitters. The guy should be able to financially support the family when the wife is taking a break to raise kids. There is some reason for Allah giving full responsibility of family to the husband. Why shouldn’t the husbands let the wives do what they want or don’t want to do? They both can have discussion and consensus and then decide what is best for their family. If God forbids my husband loses a job, I would definitely be willing to work full time to support him even though I would not have married him on the condition of financially supporting him.
The conclusion: there should be flexibility in both the husband and wife’s thinking and views and they should do whatever is the best for the family at that time.