Compromises..

[Ashy2010]

Re: Compromises..

@stoppit

Sounds like your aspiration in life is to be a well kept wife. Each to their own.

What about working because you want to work? This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to work outside. If I married a highly educated guy who is earning a lot, I’d want to set up my own business.
To be honest, I know very few (if any) men who want their wives to work after marriage. Usually if the wives do, it’s their own choice!

And yeh, you say that now but the example Deeba gave wasn’t just FIL and MIL. It was siblings as well. It might sound like a like a nice idea and yes some women do fit into this but that perfect husband isn’t so perfect any more when you’re just one person out a whole family needing his attention.

I do get so many proposals who put condition that I continue working after marriage so that I can support him. I can’t stand such guys. Of course, I would love to be left on my own in deciding if I want to work or not. But marrying on such a condition that I will continue work after marriage is not accpetable to me. This means I am marrying a jerk who is unable to fulfil his responsibilities after marriage. Also, I have been working for the past 11 years because of my father’s demise, I am kinda exhausted and am really open to the idea of being a house wife and can consider flexible working with no responsibilities of managing house expenses on me. I can consider taking up some work which I really like since all these previous years I had to work because it was my responsibility with no time left for myself. Now that my brother and sister are settled in their lives, I can relax. So your preferences really depend on your situation which you have been through.

And living with in-laws, I did mention that my thinking and views might change once I start living with them. Till then, I think it is workable.