Compromises..

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Re: Compromises..

@Deeba1234

So which of the following would you find acceptable and be willing to compromise on for a rishta:

1. Not being allowed to work after marriage..

2. Being told you must live in your inlaws house permanently (and there are other siblings living there as well, he’s not an only son)..
   It does not mean that i won’t live with my IL but who knows How your IL are? baad main Allah jany kaisy halat ho jayen k your last solution will be moving out, so i don’t want to hear this from my husband “main ney tu pehly hi kaha tha k main alag nahin hoon ga you have to compromise”.

3. No to you wearing western clothes no matter how modest they might be..

4. Being expected to give up your education after marriage as there’s ‘no point’..
   I have started my MBA and my father has invested lots of money in my education and my parents really like to see me as a well educated girl… If i get married next year then i would like to continue my studies in any case to fulfill my parents dream and my husband should corporate with me.

5. Being told that if you live with inlaws you’ll be expected to more or less ‘take over’ the bulk of the housework, cooking etc from his mum..
   i have no issues in home chores but it depends on situation. Like i have seen that people get rid of their maids as soon as their son’s got married… and i am against of this idea.

6. Being told that if you live with inlaws you’ll be expected to ask his parents’ permission if you want to visit your family.
   Permission and telling them are two different things. I have no issues in telling them that i am going to my parents house… but permission means something else. Why should i need permission to visit my parents house once in a week.

1 and 3 are acceptable conditions for me. I am not career freak girl nor really like to wear western clothes. I really feel comfortable in my traditional dresses :D.

Others are deal breaker for me…